Xander

When I change I do use Zest as it doesn't have any moisturizer and it helps strip off the barrier a lot better. Then I use moisturizing soap after that (with a lot of fragrance lol).

Hi Rockies, I go back and forth between Balmex and Bourdeaux's. And no it doesn't wash off of anything easily lol. I should clarify, I use disposable gloves and carefully peel them off so I don't get any cream on my fingers or wrists.

I used to have a lot of tape problems years back, then I discovered I was at the root of most of it. I now only apply barrier cream with a rubber glove, am extremely careful with powder and only put my diaper on with surgeon hands (thoroughly cleaned and dried). Oils, lotion or powder on your hands easily transfer on to the landing zone and compromise the tapes ability to do it's job. Another problem I had was that I use moisturizer after a shower and the lotion under my forearm was transferring to the diaper, so I had to include that into my ritual. It's now extremely rare for me to have a tape issue. I do credit that partially to the brands I buy. However when I went through my tape troubles, I was beating my head against the wall trying to figure out if it was me or the diaper. For instance, I've never had any luck wit the dry 24/7's, I've tried a few times, last year being the most recent. I'm interested to see who has had tape issues with what brands? Also please include when the diapers were purchased as companies are always making changes to their products and may have since improved (or degraded). On a separate note, If you are having tape issues, try the above. Also, after the tapes are applied, I always rub all four of them quickly to generate friction/heat to help the glue out. Then while firmly pressing all four tapes, I sit up and wiggle around to give the diaper an initial stretch so all the tension isn't on the tape. So how are your tapes treating you?

It's easy to see how something like this could cause pain in your life. And I thank everyone for being generous enough to share. I'm no therapist, and one may not agree with my perspective either. But from my own experience, resisting a deep rooted urge is futile. If it's truly part of me, and it is not of malicious nature, then only I can deem it inappropriate.

Interesting post. I found myself in a similar situation about 5 years ago. I was fortunate enough to scrape together enough to make 24/7 work at that time. I bought m4's and used wisely. Needless to say I couldn't afford the luxury to change whenever I felt like it and by the end of the day I was extremely saggy down there! I wished for an endless supply so I could wear whatever pattern or style I chose and change as often as I pleased. Then a good job came along and the option to stock up freely was possible. I started with a couple cases of Belissimos, then a rearz membership. It seemed like the sales on them just wouldn't stop and my stash no longer fit in the closet. I'd probably have to be out of a job for a couple years before I would have to revert back to a plain white diaper. Now there's two things that came from this. 1. I had really gotten to like the sensation of a very full diaper that my broke experience taught me. And now, I use far few diapers than I planned on due to ridiculous capacity that many of the abdl diapers have. 2. My stockpile desire yielded a certain heaviness. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love having a big fat and colorful stash of diapers. But it became the final nail, I committed myself to the diapered life in a way. I look in the room and see them all and realize I'll wear every one of them. There's something fun about that thought, but there was also something fun about the lighthearted freedom that came from 2 diapers to my name and constantly tracking my order to see when more would arrive. All in all, I'm happier with the way things are now than when I was broke. And I am a bit obsessive with these sorts of things so don't assume that you'll over indulge as I did. Just build yourself up a nice buffer and pad happily!

Let's say you were given a one time chance to erase the need or desire to wear diapers from your life. To extend it, if you're a little or AB, would you opt to wipe out that side of yourself? Let's start with what I perceive to be the "pros". Number one on my list would be the opportunity to pick a mate from the large pool. I feel I am forced to pick a mate by a very limiting interest. When I find someone, we're not always a match on an emotional level. Next would be this part of myself that I have to hide from my circle. It keeps my friends at a distance on a level. If I'm waddling around in a big diaper, I can't answer the door and have to use excuses like I was out with someone else. Next is money. I'm fortunate enough to buy cases of whatever diaper tickles my fancy. However when I look at my stash that I've dropped thousands on I think that money could have fed the hungry instead. Then there is that sensation that I'm broken that comes now and then. Sometimes I think my head isn't right for doing what I do. While I've reconciled the fact that it's not much of a choice to shelve my diaper habit, I sometimes question what strange motivation put me here. The "cons" to wishing diapers out of my life. While the dating pool is much smaller for me (and us), it has forced me into engage with others who are not exactly like me. So when I meet a diaper friend and we have dissimilar interests outside of nappies, I tend to explore their world, where if I was given an unlimited pool of potential mates, I would likely just keep clicking the next button and never really broadening my horizons and seeing different sides of life. As far as my circle, I've been told I have an unusual number of friends. In a way I could attribute part of this to the mysterious vibe I project that may hold people interest. I'm honest and open about everything else in my life except for my diaper and sexual interests. I think interesting people like multi-faceted individuals, and even if they can't put their thumb on what else I'm up to, the vibe is present and intriguing. As far as money, if I look at my interests through the lens of playing the roll I was given, then maybe the only reason I can afford it is because I am fulfilling some mission on a higher level that I can't comprehend from where I stand? And while I am charitable, I like to think my biggest accomplishments are the times I've taught someone else to fish rather than giving them one. So for my broken head.. Well I may in fact actually have one. Or it may be by some sort of intelligent design that I have one. Or I may just be designed this way to express my uniqueness and help break the mold of conformity. Take away the higher level thinking and is it really bad to be different? Maybe we're all helping in our own way to spread diversity in a somewhat closed minded environment. Just maybe we're all right and the annalists that slap labels on everything are living incorrectly? So to answer my own question, no I would not trade in any part of me that was not harmful or damaging. I'm thankful that I have been granted uniqueness, and I am proud that I have followed through to embrace it. And whatever your situation is, I'm proud of you for the same bravery and honesty to yourself. So what's your answer?

I bought a pack early last year and couldn't keep them on because of the tapes. I did duck tape them but not my thing. I feel like a diaper is supposed to do it's job and not offer any excuses for me to get out of it until it's full. I read that they fixed the problem middle of last year but have been waiting for old stock to clear out. I'd really hate to pay for a diaper that doesn't function properly. I emailed them about it but they never responded. I think I would really like them with good tapes, they seem really thick and comfortable.

So I recently made the not so easy decision to go 24/7 (well as close as I can get). I went 24/7 a few years ago when I was laid off and it was great. Now I have to change it up a bit, but think it still works. The only exception I will make is that I will wear pull-ups at work and will not use them. I know this is kind of cheating but it's the way it has to be for now. So I think my rules are pretty standard. No more underwear except for the doctor visits. All my undies are packed away and locked up (I have someone who is going to hold the key). Only reason I didn't throw them away is that I have some sexy ones that I can't part with just yet. So now when I go to my cabinet where my undies lived, all that's there is the big stock pile of the diapers I will be wearing throughout the week. It's kind of a weird feeling to see that change. When I come home from work, the first thing I do is remove my pull-up and pad up with a thick diaper and at least one liner. I will use it and completely forget I have a toilet. I will stay in it no matter what until 10:30pm when I will shower and change into my night time diaper. When I wake up there still is not any toilet privileges, if I have to mess, then I have to clean up before work, that's just the way it is. Fortunately I usually have to do that after work. Exceptions are if I am showered and have to leave, I will not have time to pad, mess and clean up, so I'll be sure that is a very rare occurrence. Also I will not be going into public with a messy diaper, so if I have to leave, then I must change. If I am going for a walk or drive where I will not be in a store or something, I will not be changing.

I usually am stuck in a messy diaper for 4-5 hours a day and on the weekend it's more like 8-12 hours! I don't get rashes, ever. So I wanted to share some tips for those who choose or are forced to wear for extended periods. I realize that every-ones skin has a different sensitivity and there is a tolerance that has to be built up. So take it in steps and work up slowly. Again this is for those who are seeking a practical way to stay messy longer. Girls have to be much more careful with this as UTI's are a concern. What you need: box of disposable gloves, high capacity disposable diaper (4hrs an M4 will do, 5hrs+ you'll need something along the lines of a Bellissimo) plastic backed is best here, A large doubler pad or even two, barrier cream (a little tube of stuff won't do), Two kinds of soap, one without moisturizer and one with moisturizer, and some dedicated wash cloths that are set aside for the occasion. The idea is that you change right before you have to mess. You need to be shower clean before you start. Have your diaper ready, one or two large doublers centered well (I prefer Abri-Let Maxi, they're quite big. The key ingredient is the barrier cream. I only use "Boudreaux's Butt Paste". It comes in a 16oz tub and has never let me down. Put on your disposable gloves, if you skip this, your tapes will not stick!! Apply a very liberal amount. Where? Everywhere that the diaper covers! Not just a thin film, reach in the tub (with your glove on...) and use two big gobs. Make certain that you cover all areas very well. Now carefully peel your gloves off turning them inside out as you remove them. Be careful not to get any cream on your hands, fingers or wrists. If you do thoroughly wash and dry your hands before proceeding. If you get any of this on the outside of the diaper, your tapes will fail! Carefully diaper (or be diapered) not letting the tapes or outside of the diaper come into contact with your greasy bum, if it does get another diaper. Tape tightly, hold all four tapes firmly and stand up, squat down and wiggle while keeping pressure on the tapes. This helps the areas around the tape to stretch decreasing the chances of one busting loose later while the heat from your fingers are helping the adhesive bond better. Once you're in, reach in and pull your member so it's pointing up so it will be away from the mess (if you're a guy of course). Now go do your business and stay in it! If after some period of time something doesn't seem right or feel right, bail! Don't try to be a hero and risk a problem!! Once your time is up, clean up as normal. Get to the shower right after and rinse thoroughly first, then scrub with the soap without moisturizer very well. This removes the residue that the barrier left behind. Make sure you do this well. Now use soap with moisturizer so your skin doesn't dry out down there. I prefer Zest followed by Dove with moisturizer. Now get out and put another diaper on