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@babykuri - For a very long time, I wanted to be a parent. I helped with many younger people in my life, and I still hope to take other young people on my life on fun adventures. I've learned though that you don't have to be a parent to be a role model or to help young people. I think that's the balance I've found.

I've been away from the community for over two years. I'm guessing a lot has changed in that time, so I was hoping to get some advice. What are the best diapers (not pull ups) for _discreet_ day wear? That is, that are quiet and subtle, but good enough to not worry about leaks? Plain white, ideally. Thanks!

heh, so part of me felt bad about my husband leaving me, and I mostly felt relief. I liked my life with him, but the constant stress of knowing he wanted sex was ... oppressive. When he left me, a part of me was really relieved knowing I wouldn't have to feel guilty anymore. So to that extent, I hear you, I'd say I'm "meh-romantic"... I'd like to have someone in my life, but as a diaper-wearing, fiercely independent woman, I've more or less settles into the idea that I'm going to be single, probably for life. And that's OK, I've been learning to really enjoy life on my terms, ya know? Thanks for replying, cute_kitten. It's really nice to not feel like the only person who feels a certain way.

Nice to meet you!

I love how much more information is out there these days. I couldn't imagine how much easier things would have been had I learned about ace in my early 20s. Very happy that you figured yourself out! And fwiw, I think that ya, demi is on the spectrum.

Nice to meet you!! I've found the ace community is very, very female dominated. So it's nice to see guy representing. Have you any insight or thoughts on how the diaper side of things might influence or be influenced by being ace?

As the years go on, I learn more and more about myself. The more recent realization, in the last couple of years, is that I am ace (asexual). This was no small part of why my marriage fell apart, and the biggest reason I've never tried to meet anyone new (I'm romantic, just asexual, a frustrating combination I must admit). I've not been able to figure out yet if whatever makes me like to wear diapers ties into this, or if they're totally separate issues. I was curious if there are other aces here, and if so, how you find the two sides coexist in you.

Hello, Has anyone tried the Rearz Omutsu cloth diapers? I love their Inspires, but I really don't like making so much garbage. So I've been strongly leaning towards cloth instead. I've got zero experience with cloth though, so I'm not sure what's good, what isn't or what to look for. https://rearz.ca/omutsu-bulky-nighttime-cloth-diaper/ I'm planning to use these for the covers; https://rearz.ca/waterproof-flannel-pant-diaper-cover/ Thanks for any insight!

I'll look into stress incontinence, thank you. Also, everything I've read was that wearing takes a super long time before accidents happen, and I don't wear nearly enough. So I assumed it was unrelated, but I wanted to get input from others here who are actually incontinent, and see if what I've experienced sounded familiar at all. It this is nothing to be worried about, great. If it's how bigger problems start, then I'd like to get ahead of it. Thanks again. c.

Hi all, So in my ever on-again, off-again relationship with diapers, I've gone through the usual "I want to be 24/7!" to "I don't want to wear at all..." and everywhere in between. A while back, I decided it was time to understand what this really meant to me, so finding myself living alone and mostly working from home, I decided to go 24/7 and see how long it lasted. I wasn't pushing myself, but I wasn't denying myself, either. The goal was just to see what, finally, I really wanted out of this. For context, when I wear, I have a rule that if I am wearing, I don't hold at all. So it's days to weeks at a time of constant "leaking". A few years ago, I had a small accident at work (not wearing). I felt no urge, I just noticed that I had started to wet and caught myself and stopped, but I had already left a damp spot on my pants. I was at work and left work early. That was the one and only accident for a while. Earlier this year, when I was going 24/7 for a while, I started noticing that when I took a bath, I had to pay unusual attention to not let go. This kind of worried me, as it had only been a few weeks and everything I read was that it took months to years for changes to happen. So I stopped my 24/7 as it scared me enough that I had a long hard think and decided I wouldn't enjoy actually needing diapers. A couple months ago, not having worn for some time, I was out one evening and again, without any feeling of urge, caught myself having another accident. As before, it was small and thankfully I was wearing a black skirt, so I doubt anyone noticed. After a few months without wearing, I started again last week, not even full time mind you, and I had another small accident yesterday. So with that background, I wanted to ask others (particularly other women), does this sound familiar? Are these just random events not to worry about, or does this sound like the start of larger issues? I know I could go talk to my doctor, but I'm not keen on explaining the diaper wearing as I can only guess how that will go, and would likely be blamed as the cause regardless. I live a pretty active lifestyle and I decidedly don't want to actually need diapers. On the other hand, I don't want to be scared off of wearing for fear that it will make accidents more common. Any advice/comments/anecdotes would be much appreciated. c.

Thanks, Spark!!

Thanks! Do you have personal experience with this? I imagine you might be right, but I'm hoping to get feedback from people who might have some personal experience with this.

Hi all, So a while back, I thought I wanted 24/7. I even started a thread here about it, but I also left the door open at the time to bail out. I was mostly trying to figure out what role I wanted diapers to play in my life. So about a month in, I realized I didn't want to actually lose control, so I stopped and spent a fair bit of time trying to figure things out. What I finally realized is that I wanted to be diaper-trained... That is, if I am wearing, I want to be able to let go (#1 only) without having to think about it. So I made a point to wear during the day and just "let go" as much as I could, never pushing, never holding back. That has mostly worked and during the day, using the diaper is almost unconscious, but when I am not wearing, I'm fine. Now I want to reach the same point at night, but I also don't want to become a bedwetter (for real). Like, I don't mind waking up when I feel like I need to go, but I want to get to a point where I can just "let go" without thinking, like I can during the day. Of course, doing this at night is a lot trickier. So I wanted to ask you ladies and gents; Have you had any luck diaper-training at night? Did it every lead to any actual night accidents? If it did, were you able to get control back by backing off diapers for a while or something? Basically; Any advice for night diaper training without risking accidents when not diapered? Thanks! c.

I went long enough to realize I didn't want to be 24/7. Two things did it in; 1. The thought of visiting family while diapered was just a non-starter. 2. The idea of needing to deal with barrier cream and stuff took the fun out of it.I consider it a success in so far as I know better now what I want and don't want, which is no small thing.

Hi, It didn't work out. I got to a point where I sort of freaked out and stopped. I know now that I don't want to be 24/7, and I'm enjoying just wearing when the mood strikes and not when I am not.