Redcoatnboots

You are right, he only wants a mommy when it is play together time. And it's the times away when he's not into baby play and we are not together that he doesn't do what he's agreed to doing. It makes me angry and I feel used. i don't want to punish him for that though. not consciously anyway. What I want is a way to keep his head in baby play between scenes. He responds to punishments...so I thought that having some new ideas would help.

These are great, thanks. I'm looking for some more subtle ones too, so as not to scare him off. Any other ideas? Baby doesn't live with mommy and play is infrequent. But I'd like some punishments that he can carry with him to remember our time together and some that I could carry out without being together...hard to think of .

So...could I have some ideas thrown out from some of you who have dominating mommy fantasy's about what kind of punishments may be appropriate for a baby who has defied his mommy? I need punishments that can be carried out via txt, as pure threats and as actual punishments for the far spread play times I have with my baby. In general the times he defies me, I am not within any kind of proximity to physically carry out a punishment. He'll agree to certain arrangements when we last play...then doesnt follow through. I need some sort of way to end this defiance. Types of defiance: not going to bed at bedtime, masturbating when expressly told not to, not calling me mommy, etc... We don't play in the open and don't really have common things we do or friends we are around...so play is mostly at my house when he is needing baby time. Please help thanks.

I feel for you. I'm a friend of an ABDL, but that is only recent, which is why I am on here. Your marriage and loss of trust speaks more to me because I am recently divorced (2 years ago, after a 14 year marriage) and went through years of my husband lying to me, especially about porn, even about an affair. You've got a couple different things that might be going on. One, your husband has probably had a thing for diapers for years, and may have never really experimented with them. And now that he sees them and is using them for the baby, he may be more interested in experimenting with them. Having a kid takes time away from your relationship too, so he may be spending more time on the computer as a passive aggressive way to get back at you for spending so much time with the baby. Maybe jealous to a certain extent? I wouldn't worry too much about him being sexually interested in the baby. Especially if he has owned up to an interest in diapers already (prior to the baby?). He may be thinking more about his own childhood and regressing some himself. Have you played with diapers before with him? How comfortable are you with his fettish? You might be able to engage him with his fetish and provide him an outlet other then the computer. Your welcome to PM me if you want.

I would suggest going without the diapers, but if you do wet, don't panic. If you are having surgery and will be recuperating overnight, having an incontinent episode may not be all that abnormal. I'd just put your call light on, own up to it, ask for a depends product and by the time the nurse leaves the room, she probably won't even give it a second thought. If they offer a catheter, explain you'd rather not have the increased risk of infection r/t the catheter and will just "deal" with the depends for the night. She's not gonna want to cath you if she doesn't have to. Takes more time. So does helping you to the bathroom verses helping you clean up an incontinent episode in a depends, by the way, so the nurses will be fine with you using a depends instead of calling for assistance to go to the bathroom.

On a plate, spread out a packet of cream cheese, put a can of chilies and tomatoes or just a jar of salsa on next. Then brown hamburger and layer that on, top with a bag of shredded cheese. Heat it up til it's all melty and eat with tortilla chips. Yummy!

Thank you both, yes...the "relationship" is very new. I think "friendship" is a better word for it, and even that is new and needs work and time. It's hard to explain how fun it's been playing and i want to evolve that and not ruin things by going to fast or any other number of ways to screw things up. I have talked to him a little, and want to continue to communicate.

I'm actually having fun playing mommy for now...my issue is that I'm not sure how interested he is in an actual relationship. I like to role play and mommy/baby is fun. But I also like to be submissive, like to kiss, have sex and the more mundane relationship things like hanging out. Mostly we've just met up to "play". I'm afraid I'm getting myself into a situation where I may be interested in an actual relationship and he may not be. Or I'm just getting used. How normal is it for AB/DL to be so shy he's not really interested in sex with a woman, but has no problem with that woman taking advantage of him sexually? I guess I'm afraid he is not interested in me romantically but just as a mommy, because I'm willing to play.