Daniellexxx

Yes, they'll usually hold 2-3 accidents depending on how much I wet. I try to change after each one but it's not so easy when I'm out.

I'm urge incontinent and after going to my doctor I was then refered to the local continence clinic to be assesed. The nurse asked questions like how many accidents I had per day, was it full bladder/ bowel leakage and how it affected my daily life. They then decide what sort of protection would fit you best. I get my diapers delivered every few weeks and I'm supposed to change 4 times a day. I was given lille suprem plus and apart from having a few problems with the baggy waist band I haven't leaked much.

Thanks guys We had a long chat this morning and I felt much better afterwards. He's been helping me to change myself today and it felt nice to be able to go out with my nappy on properly. I had 2 accidents but my clothes stayed dry the whole time, something that hasn't happened in a long time, so I feel so much happier now. It didn't feel embarassing with him helping either, it actually felt right, we have such a close relationship anyway so it didn't feel wrong at all. Thanks again

Thanks for your replies. We have spoken about how I think it might change things and I do think it is all in my head. He's told me the nappy doesn't change the way he feels about me and he has said he'd really like to be involved in the whole process. I'm going to sit down and talk it through with him properly. I do really need help with changing myself at the moment whilst still getting used to how to do it properly so if he's willing to help then it'll make things so much easier

I've recently been diagnosed with urge incontinence and finding it hard to deal with infront of my boyfriend, we've been together 5 years (since I was 16) and I have had accidents infront of him a few times. But now The thing I'm finding hard to deal with now is the nappies, I've wore pull ups a few times (on long trips etc) but I've always been able to hide it from him. Now I'm in nappies almost full time so he knows everything. He doesn't seem to find it a problem at all and has even offered to help me put them on as I can't seem to be able to fasten to waist band tight enough. I'd really love his help with a few things but can't bring myself to ask him. I'd be worried it would somehow ruin our relationship if he started helping with something so intimate and embarassing. Does anyone elses partner help with your incontinence? Has it changed your relationship at all? Danielle