In my town (Ottawa), there used to be occasional (monthly) ABDL munches organised by a man/baby in Gatineau, but I think he is too busy to work on it anymore.
In Ottawa, both Wicked Wanda's and The Alternative are good places to go, to begin exploring the local kink, fetish, BDSM, and ABDL worlds.
I am sure that there are events and meetups being organized for most places in Europe, Asia, and North America, on Fetlife, Collarspace, and maybe Alt.com. Get yourself out on as many social media sites (Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, TikTok, Tumblr, LinkedIn) as you can, (with a decent photo-shoot, that makes your particular kink look good to anyone looking at it), and complete bio's and write ups that show off who you are, your accomplishments, and anything that might get a Domme's interest.
Us women are almost the same as you. We are all just as sexual and perverted (or lying). Most woman that I know have some tendency to be (none ABDL) "Littles" , and respond well to "daddy's" (and get wet by being spanked). This means that they actually get you, on some level, and just pretend that they don't.
Oh-ya.
As an actual, living DommyMommy:
Ignore shit about haircuts. What got me interested enough to pursue and win my BabySlave (other than his Master's in Anthropology - nothing is better than a real university education) was his 5+ feet of dreadlocks.