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This is a good question. In some ways when I think about it the relationship between a nonsexual AB and a mommy or daddy could be a little like a sponsor relationship in a 12 step program. In most 12 step programs it is preferred that there be as little as possible sexual attraction between two people in a sponsor role. Men with men, women with women and gay men with gay women. If your bi I guess your SOL. For me it’s a sexual thing so I look for a baby girl.

Am I the only one who sometimes feels ill after watching a vary hard BDSM movie. I like to watch most but some times I watch some that are vary bloody and extreme. There not fake as fare as I can tell and most of the time I can. Movies ware they hurt someone bad and the sub is rely crying hard and is broken but the dom keeps going. I get done watching sometimes and I feel sick to my stomach. Maybe I’m not as twisted as the rest of you, or not twisted the same way. Control is one thing and hurting someone can be a part of that but I don’t get off on watching someone rely hurt bad. If that is what your into, do you get excited watching real life shows ware they take you into the ER and you can see real people scream and cry with broken bones and blood spurting out of gun shot wounds? If that’s what your into good for you I guess. I just wanted to know to what degree your BDSM goes. I guess the little bit of dom I have in me is mild.

When I was in 2nd grade there was this girl Amy Abernathy who was in 4th grade that always sat in front of me on the buss everyday. She was mean. She would always try to do mean things to me. I would tell her she should stop but she just do something to me the next day for no reason. Like many of the other girls she had panted finger nails that were kind of long. One day she raked her nails down my arm for no reason and drew blood so I hit her in the face and split her lip and blooded her nose. You know what after that she was not mean to me any more. I don’t know if that counts as SM. Yah, I don’t make a very good sub but some people have to find out the hard way. I know you should not hit girls unless they want you to but when my mom saw my arm she said it was good that I hit her.

I have never played with BDSM much in my relationships. I had a few girlfriends that wanted to be tied up now and then but that’s about it. I know seeing it on the net excites me but I don’t know if I could do some of things I see. I’m a healer I don’t know if I could hurt a girl. Crying girls turn me into Jell-O all I want to do is hold them. At the same time on the net so fare as BDSM goes I’m one sick puppy. I don’t know if it’s that I can disassociate with it when it’s on the net or what. I have a pattern of dating girls who life has broken them and I build them back up and put them together again. It’s a bad habit of mine that I don’t set out to do it just happens. I know ware it come from and it’s ingrained deep with in me. It’s dominating in a form because they need you and you control what they wont but in a way it’s sub too because you want to give them what they wont to try to make them happy. You serve them. The relationships never work out. They get to ware they can stand on their own and they don’t need me so one of us moves on. It ends up being that I give, give, give and all I get is the feeling of being needed in the end. Some don’t get back up and they start to suck the life right out of me. I give till there is nothing left of me and I have to get out or drown. I end up getting bitter because I gave but never got because it was always about them but I set my self up for it. I have know idea how to ask for what I want and what I need, out side of the feeling of being needed. I don’t think I would make a very good sub. I can serve to a point but if my past has thought me anything I’m a fighter. Pain and abuse tend to bring out my nasty side and I can get quite violent. The bad part is I’m a stuffer so the warning signs are subdue. You might think your getting away with it for some time and the water looks calm except for a few waves. Then I go off when I can’t stuff it any more and it’s like Krakatoa. What this long rant has to do with BDSM I don’t know at this point. Yah I know I’m fucked up. Any way take what you want from that. Oh a board some of you may be into. http://extreme-board.com

You might try an oral gel sort of product. The kind used for mouth sores. The mouth is a mucus membrane and so is your bum hole. It might work.

Unless your lease is up and the land lord is looking for damage before you move out or your house needs repair your land lord should not be coming over to make inspections. Things called renters rights prevent that. They vary some from state too state but unannounced inspections are generally a no no in most states. Any time someone comes over you have a right to be notified as a renter. Most states your land lord better have a good reason for coming over or sending some one over like general matinee or upkeep. If your land lord comes over just to look at the house to see that it’s in good order and there are no holes in the walls that’s called harassment and they should know better. that’s a good way for a land lord to get sued Even if it just the pest control man coming over they most tell you what week or day they are coming. As for your mother tell her it bothers you that she would just go through your stuff like that. You may want to think about getting a new lock on your door. If you go to the hardware store you can buy a new doorknob lock set with a regular key for about 20$. It’s not hard to put in, all you will need is a screwdriver. Most of the time you don’t have to change out the latch just the doorknob part. That would require you to take out the two old screws on the old doorknob. Then the two sides of the knob will come off. Then all you have to do is put the new doorknob on just like the old one came off. Line up the screw holes and put the screws back. Your land lord should not care as long as you put the old doorknob back before you move out. A new door lock dose wonders to keep unwanted people out and I think your mom would get the point.

I think it’s worth keeping in mind that girls dressed in plaid skirts and knee high stockings dose not raze to much of a fuss for a lot of people. Dressing as an under age Catholic high school girl is not much different from playing baby. If your girlfriend dresses like this to turn you on and she is over 18 who cares. If we convicted people on there thoughts and imaginations we would all be in jail. It is our actions that we are judged by. Who has not thought of something illegal like theft or assault and known it was wrong and keep it just as a thought. I see nothing wrong with role playing games between adults. Most of these games are about power.

I don’t know if this will help but I thought it was fun to look at anyway. Take it for what it’s worth. http://www.warpmymind.com/index.php

I know many of my friends who smoked and stopped say that they were constipated for a week or more when they stopped. I know my own father told me he was regular like clockwork same time every day and after he stopped smoking that all changed. I’m not telling people to smoke. We all know it’s bad for you. It’s just when some one told me about smoking being able to help IBS it sounded possible seeing how smoking has effected the digestive systems of people I know with out IBS. I’ll try to see if I can find any thing on the web about it.

Roomer??? IBS in some cases can be helped by smoking a few cigarettes a day? This is sort of a catch 22 if it is true. Anyone know anything about this?

Your survey is rather narrow and excludes many people on this board. I take it you don’t care to know what women or mommy’s and daddy’s think.

Pardon my intrusion, but this case could kind of fall in a gray area I would say. If he stops wetting when he is not in a diaper then problem salved. The only thing is that this sort of thing if true hints at another medical condition, a sleep disorder like sleep walking or night tears. Sleep disorders can be caused by abnormalities in the brain, abnormalities in chemical production by the brain or they can be psychological. Keep in mind that psychological problems can and often do cause physical dysfunction with in the brain. Now if said person has a sleep disorder a medical condition and this disorder manifests in a new symptom of uncontrolled urination during sleep it would qualify as enuresis a form of medical incontinence. This all hinges on the validity of this mans story. I understand the sensitivity of the incontinence section seeing as those of you who are incontinent find it irritating and offensive when fetish people come by and make comments about how great it must be to be incontinent. I would just hate to see someone who might need help with incontinence problems run off before being given the benefit of the doubt. That’s just my two cents. You can take it or leave it.

That struck me funny that the thought of something interring you would freak you out so much. A large percentage of people your age, 20 are or have been sexually active. No matter what your sexuality is strait or gay as a girl most of the time there is some penetration of some kind. Don’t get me wrong if you have never been sexually active there is nothing wrong with that and I‘m not making fun of you. I think most girls your age have at least fooled around enough that you have been with someone with roaming hands. I don’t know I guess that’s non of my business. I hope I have not upset you. I just thought it odd that the thought of any thing going inside you would bother you so much.

Boy Ricky I apologize if I came off a little abrasive. I respect the manner and politeness of your replay. Your lifestyle chose is not one I would be happy with but if it works for you and your partner then I am happy for you. I would just caution any one from living this lifestyle as a lifestyle before they have taken an inventory of them self and looked at there motivations and the dynamics of it. You seem to have a good grip on all of this so I’m not too warred about you lol. I don’t agree with you 100% on all your points but you made some good points. I look forward to corresponding with you down the road.

I agree with Aleia’s points. I’m daddy but so fare as a relationship goes this fetish is just that for me it’s not a lifestyle. I know a lot of people will strongly disagree with some of the things I’m going to say but there just my opinion. To make your self incontinent and be a baby 24/7 has some parallel lines to other disorders. For one thing you create a very codependent relationship and most shrinks will tell you that’s not good. Most relationships have some degree of codependency to them but being very codependent is rather unhealthy. A healthy relationship should be 50/50. If you are being taken care of 24/7 and having someone make most of your decisions for you then how can you expect to contribute on an equal level emotionally. I’ve been in relationships like this that were not AB/DL as the caretaker. At first you feel great. You feel like your important as a person because someone needs you and wants you. So you give and support. Over time you find that you are the mane person giving and making sacrifices to accommodate what the other person needs an wants and your not getting what you need. Another thing is being a baby 24/7 takes you out of the reality of the real world. Much like a drug addict or alcoholic runs from feelings and responsibilities so to dose a 24/7 adult baby. I think a lot of us hear lost our childhood, I know I did but you will find you can’t hide from life. I tried to hide in a bottle for a number of years, it did not work very well so I gave that up. If you’re a mentally sound adult and you have someone making all your chouses for you thin your hiding or maybe incarcerated. Each to there own I guess but as I role this around in my head a bit it’s a little troubling for me. Its just not something I would want to do 24/7 with someone. It sounds like great fun as a part time thing but I don’t think I would get what I needed out of a relationship if was all the time. I don’t want any one to feel like I’m attacking them. If that’s your thing and it works for you then good. As long as no one gets hurt and if you have kids you keep it between you and your partner.