DL Dave

dose she have concerns? yep, she thinks I'm nuts. But she's adjusting well. For right now, I'm just DL, but latter who knows.

I've always had a sensitve blader. Wet the bed as a kid steady untill 10, then off and on untill about 14. It still comes and goes, not the bed wetting, but the senstiveness. Sometimes I have to go every 10 or 15min. Or at least it feels like it. Since I've been wearing, I've noticed this feeling has come back, it dosn't bother me now though, because it dosn't interupt my life anymore. If I feel the need to go, I can go. If it's a false alarm, no big deal. It's nice not having to worry about it. I wonder if my wearing is causing this, or if I was headed that way anyways? What's it called when it feels like you have to go most of the time? It's like I have an itch down there that can only be scratched when I go. I've been wearing for 5 months now. It seems normal to me at this point.

I'm working in a new shop (I'm a welder) and don't have set of coveralls yet, so I just wear a fire resistant leather jacket, and jeans. However today there was a slight acident when I tried to get through the crowded shop I steped over project with a sharp edge, and tore the front of my pants. If I hadden't been wearing an attends at the time, I might never have kids again. OK it wasn't that bad, but close enough. The hole was a small one, but big enough to see inside, if you were looking. Ofcourse most of the people in the shop weren't looking at me there. But I was definetly worried every time I had to bend to pick somthing up. No one seemed to notice, and if they did they didn't say anthing. Did I mention this was my second day? anyone elts been "exposed" at work?

I know I'm so imature. I can't help myself.

Pee causes the itching? I was wondering about that, the last little while I've been itchy down there, it gets kinda akward when I'm in public somewhere. Anything I can do to cut down on that?

Nair, and Veet both burn me, so I just use a normal razor. I find it works well, long as it's dry, no shaving cream.

Just as a quick side note, I asked my wife how she was feeling and adjusting to my being a DL, and including that in our life now. Her answer "Depends" For the record, she was serious, in that she's still adjusting, she's just not freaked out anymore. But it was still funny.

I find the bigest worrie for me is that i'm going to leak. Somtimes I also find it hard to go unless I make myself go. And while I'm going, I'm worrying about leaking. However last night I used a diaper (not a pull up like I usualy do) and put in one extra pad (with the back cut to alow it to seep into the diaper) and just taped it realy tight. When I woke up and had to go, first I laid on my side, I was sure i was leaking, but hoped I was wrong. Then I had to go again, I find it takes seral times when I'm laying down, this time I moved onto my front. I didn't think I would leak that way, and it felt almost the same, so I was realy hoping I hadn't leaked the first time. In the morning when I go up, the bed was dry . But I was wet . I'm learing it's hard for me to tell if I've leaked or not, since i'm wet either way. I don't mind being wet. But I don't want to ruin the bed, nor do I realy want to upset my wife. So anyways, in response to the topic, I find you just have to make yourslef go. I'll try it again tonight, and we'll see how it gose.

Sounds like your putting a lot of pressure on yourself. First thing I would sugest is relaxe. I went through the same emtions and thoughts. If your not realy incontent, then you don't have to use diapers, if you don't want to, remeber that. As for the cost, it's a matter of trial and error, before you find what works for you, I use a combination of pads and pull-ups, the pads are about 50 cents while the pull-ups are $1.50, so I spend about $3 a day, mabe less. I don't wear a night all the time, since in get's in the way of my sex life. I used to think i was cheating that way, then I thought, I'm doning this 'cause I want too, not have to. I've read and downloaded several ways to "train your self to be incontent", one said if I didn't follow a certian pattern, it would not work and one said once I lost control of number 1, number 2 would soon follow. So I figure, if it's a tempromental as these two "experts" claim, then I'm going to apply what works for me, and not worry about the rest. If going all out is what you realy want then great, but if not, don't be afraid to take it slow. I mean it's not like it's a contest or anything. That's just my thought's, but what ever you do, I hope it works out for you.

it's hit and miss with the ER somtimes. Once I went in, waited about 4hrs to see someone, and they didn't belive I was sick (I had a lung infection and had trouble breathing), last time I went in, they seen me right away, and when I said I had somthing loged in my throught, they took my word for it. The bed side manner was much better the last time as well. Sorry to hear about the stones. Never had 'em, but understand they can be pretty terible.

On a slightly more serious note, I'd like to throw in my 2 cents. First I'll say I'm a Christian, more specificaly a mormon. We have several standards, and guidelines set out for us to follow, and learn from. There is a list of 13 belifes that basicly say what we are about. The one most relavent to this thread is number 11: 11 We claim the privilege of worshiping Almighty God according to the dictates of our own conscience, and allow all men the same privilege, let them worship how, where, or what they may. Although I belive my faith to be correct and true, I don't think I have the right to shove it in your face in a moraly superior fashion. It's not for me too say you are evil because of your faith, or lack of a faith. Another core belief is that faith with out works is dead. Or in more simple terms you will be judged on what you do and why you do it. If you build houses for the homeless, and do it for the right reasons, then it realy dosn't matter what religion you are. At the same time if you hurt children and animals intentionaly, it also dosn't matter which religion you are. What am I trying to say here? I don't think I'm better than anyone elts, I do think that there is good and evil, same as there is right and wrong. Most religions that I am awear of however are not evil in nature. (yes I know there is saintanisum, and other sub groups that do focus on evil) That donsn't mean I think they are right. Either my faith is right or it's not, it can't be both. I belive my church is "His" true church, and that the teachings are "His". That said all other churchs and faiths must be wrong. Not to say they arn't close or well intentioned, but still wrong. I don't mean to be condecending when I say that. I have a personal testimony of the truthfullness of my faith. That means I know it is true. There is no way for me to prove it is true, just as you can't dissprove it. For me it was a matter of prayer and faith. There were a series of events and experiences that allowed me this insite. I won't go into them here though. I'm glad for my faith, and it's teachings, they enrich my life, and influence me for the better.

~am i the only one that missed this extraordinary magical event in 2006 caused by the merging of the astral plane that daphne sissy was describing? if so can someone please post the link of the video or news story about it. i would hate to have missed out on it. Nope I missed it too.

Seems kinda off topic, (but it was my topic, so I'll go with it) but I don't think most people are. I think we all have good days, and bad days. And mabey some of us have more bad than others, but I think the truth is we just rember bad days more. I mean do you realy rember the cashier who said thank your, or the person who held the door for you when you were coming in from the rain? But you sure rember the person who said you were stupid, or cut you off in trafic. It's not that the bad stuff happens more, it's just that we tend to pay more attention to it. As for going back for the $3, it comes down to me not wanting to draw attention to myself. After all I can always shop somewhere elts. Wal-mart is right across the street. Problem there is I used to work at that wal-mart. I know too many people there. So I guess I'll just have to suck it up.

One of those courtisies, by the way, is not intentionaly using hurtful language. This site is one of those private places where you if your acting (or wanting to act like) your two, that's just part of the game. If I don't like that, or want to deal with it, then I should just leave, and respect those who do like it. I mean it's not like I'm forced to be here or anything.

I think we need structure as a society. I don't think it's OK to just do what ever we like. If somthing I'm doing is offensive to others, like walking down town in my underwear, then I understand why people would want that stoped. However if I"m running around my appartment, in my underware, then that's no ones buisness but mine. You could easily subsitue diaper for underwear in that example. If a grown man or woman were to aproach me in a store acting like they were two, that would make me uncomftorable. Unless ofcourse they actualy had mental challange. If those same pleople want to behave that way at home, or with friends and family and that works for all involved, then that's great. There are certian courtsies and customs we expect from eachother in general, and I don't think that's a bad thing. There are still lot's of ways we can be differnt, especialy since most of us are privilaged to live in free countries.