...I would also ask, all abdl talk aside, how are YOU in these relationships? I mean, I think it's one thing for a girl to not be into it, but to give you a fucked up reaction or just stop talking to you? It sounds to me that either you have some non-abdl related issues to look at or you just need to start feeling these girls out a little better, and get a good sense that you can trust them before you drop being abdl on them.
I should probably mention that I have dated two other girls after my ex-wife besides the two I already mentioned. First of all, I didn't sleep with these women and secondly, it didn't take long dating these two women to sense that to just trust them with non-abdl issues was going to be a stretch, so to actually open up to them about being abdl? Forget about it dude! I stopped seeing them shortly after this realization for both.