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Hello all! I'm 19 years old from Wisconsin USA. I just recently found the appeal of wearing diapers, but so far I love it.

I received a private message the other day from somebody who I had gotten to know a little on this web site. The person expressed two things to me in this message. The first was they felt that diapers and this site were consuming their life. This has been a frequent topic before around here, with the frequency of the binge and purge cycles being well documented. I don't wish to dwell on that specific topic because that isn't the topic I found most startling. The second thing this person said to me was that they felt the board was "too much for adults". This person, being 19, felt very much out of place here. I know that we try to be as welcoming a community as we can be, and I understand fully the legal reasons, even if I abhor the social reasons, for excluding people who are under 18 from taking part in this community or other communities like this one. I also know that there are many younger readers and participants on this site, and I, for one, value their input here. So I guess my question is this: How can we make this community a place where the younger legal participants can feel okay participating here? I have to assume that the person I was conversing with is not the only person who feels that way. I'm hoping that a discussion like this will allow the DD community to be an even stronger one than it already is. Thoughts, comments, and suggestions for how we can make this a more welcoming community are welcome.

she's not that awesome. seriously.

In the best interest of keeping the peace, you may want to wear ONLY when she's not around. She apparently does not like the idea of you in a diaper and it doesn't sound like she's going to warm up to the idea any time soon.

4-minute mark?! I don't wanna know how many hours that'd take to load... Why can't people just give descriptions, for those of us eternally cursed with slow internet and lack of the monetary standing to change that fact?!

Do you think it would help if our ages weren't posted with our profiles. Maybe then age may not be as much of an issue and more would feel welcome?

I think it's more of an issue with the poster themselves than the site. It's not that the site doesn't make them feel uncomfortable, just that they feel uncomfortable on the site of their own accord. Of course, I can only really speak for myself here. More 'younger' (i.e. 18 to, say, 30) active members may solve the 'problem' if you wish to call it that.

http://www.rick.com/content/octomoms-baby-whipping-fetish-video-whip-it-good The full video is there. It is CREEPY - nothing like the other diaper videos from the sites we know and trust! haha

If you look through AB/DL picture galleries you see that the answer is "not very well".

There are some video clips about it http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DJB98aPlCls I am not the one who uploaded this to youtube, i am just sharing the link.

My question is how the heck does an adult fit into a toddler diaper?

Yes, the Buy It Now price is $700, OR Make Offer. So, make offer. I should offer him $2, and tell him that I'm going donate them to Mike for his diaper museum. Anyone that would even consider paying $700, has more money than ....... Just my thougths though.

sounds like a great way to start the day!

Umm, stating your name, saying where you live and want you want isn't going to get a Mommy or Daddy either. One you have to be willing to be an adult and help contribute to household bills. I seriously doubt you'll find someone to take care of you 24/7 as a baby without expecting help with the bills, etc. Instead of pleading your case behind a computer why not try to meet others in your area? I did this as my daddy used to hold ABques and I went to one then we took things slowly. Here we are almost 9 years after meeting and now we're married. You have to get to know someone as an adult first before taking it to the AB/DL world. It doesn't work sitting on your computer, begging for one. Good luck!

Stop the damn war and let's give each other a hug Tris' made a mistake. Whether or not he'll want to admit it, he made one. Period. But why take it so heartlessly? Let's forgive and give another chance. That's what Christmas is all about! Forgive those who makes mistakes, because you make them too!

Oh shit, the epiphany. Was there a shaft of light and angels vocalizing? It's a Christmas Miracle! That's the point I've been trying to drill home, but y'all are too wrapped up in 'freedom of expression' and gender semantics. Yarly. MENSA Scrabble tournaments at 14. Suck it. Maybe I should be the one to leave -- I'm not a fan of being associated with Drama Queens and morons. #fuckallyall #takingalilbreak

It may come off as judgmental cruel and callous, however how a group is viewed within a giving society is based on the objective view of many individuals. If we step back for one second and put the man in a thong instead of a diaper, how quickly does our own Ab/DL subculture objective view change. It comes off as those defending the poorly kept individual are doing so because he may be into this life and misunderstood or socially apnic. If he was just a slovenly male, alone, milling about a pack of families and children the majority if not all would recognize this for what it is, someone who is out of place and needs to be removed from the situation. For the type of socially sanctioned gathering he is not socially acceptable to fit in. Now before people jump down my throat about individuality and people need to accept people for who they are, the fact of the matter is humans do not work that way. We form groups, the unkept man did not fit into that group, and just because he had a diaper do not defend him and lump him into ours. That way of thinking is just as destructive to our own image of ourselves as it is to the rest of society's groups view of us. As far as the overweight thing is concerned. People are overweight and few people can do nothing about it. Obesity is a rampant disease right now and lack of education on health, proper diet, lack of physical activity are helping the infection spread. There is a lot a person can do to control there weight. Add poor hygiene on to obese and yes, that is largely not acceptable to be in society so unkempt.

heheheh fatass..... hey i'm fat... and i still laugh at other fat people who clearly can't dress themselves.... its disgusting..... at least in my personal opinion..... course i think thin people in too tight clothing or too short clothing or too low cut clothing is also disgusting... but then again i think i a little old fashion in that sense... hehehh fat people ARE funny... in the immortal words of chris griffin " if i didn't laugh at myself, i'd be dead by now"

The fact is, after a certain point, being overweight is a serious health issue. My wife is overweight and fighting hard to overcome a childhood and young adulthood where food was the focus of nearly every enjoyable occasion. Every travel destination, every special occasion, FOOD. On the other hand, her mother and sister say "I've tried every diet, this is just how I am." True, there is probably a metabolism defect at the root of their family tendency toward obesity. Nevertheless, the fact is that my wife is down to 170 from 200, through removing 'non-foods' from her diet, handling her diabetes properly, and an exercise regimen including WEIGHT TRAINING. She's shooting for 140, which she believes will be somewhere near her ideal weight. I don't expect her to look like a model, nor would I WANT that. Anyway, she's proof that her family mantra of 'it's not my fault' isn't true. Both my mom and uncle are severely overweight, and depression isn't helping the situation. They're constantly complaining that they can't lose weight, and every time I ask, "Are you doing any weight training?" They always say no. While I pity those who have problems with obesity and may even be trying to change that...I have no choice but to think there are only a very small fraction of them that have the right to say they really can't change. You don't have to be a size 0, but it is fairly clear how your body is supposed to be.

@Kitten, D_Ranger: Read the part where I said it was freezing cold outside. Everyone was bundled up from head to toe, and any exposed part of the body, no matter who it belonged to, would have been chilly enough to react by covering it up. I maintain that this was an act of exhibition. Funny that most of you jumped on the weight issue. Your indignant responses lead me to believe that you too, suffer from a bit of a weight problem; I can understand that you might feel a bit hurt reading those words, as you've likely had them said to you at least once or twice. This was far from the focus of my diatribe, yet many of you chose to take it in that direction. This was the focus. But I felt it necessary to expand on his traits that would allow one to make logical inferences about his personality and lifestyle. (Yes, I know I just took a more euphemistic way around saying that I'm judgmental.) But we're all judgmental, whether we want to be or not. Our media plays a very significant role in how we decide what's attractive by further magnifying (and often obscuring) the little details of our human condition. Add to this our natural instinct, and you've got what we now call a Stereotype. I hate Metallica, but: Sad But True. This defines how we interact with one another, and in turn, our social structure. What I would like to impress is that even when one of us witnesses this kind of image, it's displeasing, and only moreso because we know that we're basically in the same boat. The moral of the story is: don't be that guy.

QFT

Like I said, I knew this wouldn't earn me many friends, and that there would be consequences and casualties. Drynot, Tpins: I will reaffirm that I believe that anyone can change, at any time, for any reason. While I won't take this in a personal direction for either of you, will say plainly that, just like everyone else, your present is based on your past and the choices you have made. The good news is that you can steer your future into a more desirable destination, at any time. You must simply choose to do so. As far as the weight thing goes -- isn't the obesity rate something like 42%? It's no secret Americans are fat. I agree, the definition could use some tweaking, but 42% is nearly half. Even at a conservative guesstimate, we're still talking 30-something percent -- that's not cool, yo. Bringing it back for a second, I'd like to shout out to my homeboy Lex up there -- I believe it was he that started the 'Drop a diaper size' thread and challenge? That's Proof positive: Your status quo can be changed at any time. You only have to choose. Look, what I'm getting at with all of this is that a generation can be an inspiration, an example worthy of note, or it can be a reminder, a note to take heed; to be made example of. Being an ABDL can be a burden in one's hand, and an anchor on one's heart and mind. That is why I urge the young people to face their issues head-on, learn themselves, and how they must get along. Be social, build relationships. Play the game, and play it well. You only live once, and the sooner you can start to accept yourself, the sooner others can accept you, and your best life can begin. This comes with all kinds of rewards, not the least of which is not ending up middle-aged, fat, balding, alone, and possibly living in your mother's basement. (Or in a van down by the river!)

Hm. Not where I saw this going. I fully expected a flamewar to erupt, but I felt it necessary to point this out, depsite the possible consequences. Thanks, gang! What sucks is that my first version was alot better, and while I was reviewing and editing, I hit 'backspace' a bunch of times, trying to re-write a quip, and the text box didn't have the focus. Firefox backed up a few pages and I lost my reply. I almost took it as an omen that I shouldn't go through with it, but you can clearly see what I decided. It's unfortunate that some individuals must be further oppressed when they're in an already painful situation. For as long as humans have existed, there have been those who did not excel in the social arena; for a myriad of reasons, not the least of which would be visual appeal, or lack thereof. In no way does this mean that those people are no longer worthwhile, but sadly, there are some things that some folks just can't do based upon their social and/or visual status. And I wholeheartedly subscribe to the theory that people can change, at any time, for any reason. After all, we were designed this way; if it's one thing humans do collectively well, it's adapt to survive. However, it is still survival of the fittest, sadly, and that means that there will be some casualties. But since our battle is Time, the playing field is equalized by our ability to recognize patterns in our own behavior, and adapt accordingly. To my younger members: This means you. Each generation serves as an example to its immediate, and future successors since people have been gathering and communicating. Specifically with our community, those who are taking the leap to find out more about this aspect of themselves, and begin their own personal journey of acceptance, are the future of our collective acceptance into what we know as modern American society. Your ability to get to know yourself, and integrate yourself into your environment, as well as find healthy, productive outlets to fulfill the emotional voids in your life will ultimately protect you from a future of ostricism, despair, and loneliness. (and also from getting called out on the internet by some twenty-something punk for looking like a perv.) There are two very different futures ahead of you, my friends. Do yourselves, and us all, a huge favor, and be the best person you can be. Address your needs and rectify the situations that hold you back from living your dream. If you don't do it soon, you may be too late. Do everything you can to live the best life, the right life. Take care of yourself, and take care of each other. Good night.

Too bad it's kid's pullups and not adult products...

for many people when they think baby diaper they think disposable, and if you are going to engage in this you want it to be as close to your fantasy as possible. for some cloth is just unrealistic because of the living situation their laundry is mixed with others in the household or they share a room etc...etc... where a disposable can just be put in a black bag and thrown out. for many parents of actual children/babies, disposables are convienent and if you do not have a washer / dryer in your own home then its a lot to have to get in your car, drive to the laundry mat, wait there while your clothes are washing and drying, then drive back home. Its a waste of time and gas money to have to make that many more trips because of disposables. for me, disposable diapers with the plastic crinkling back are the prop i like to use when engaging in my ab fetish behavior, cloth to me do not feel like diapers and it does not excite me in any way to wear them.

There are a hundred justifiable reasons she would do the things you say, yet not be an ab/dl. I know plenty of people who'v tried baby food on a dare, just for fun, they have a younger sibbling so it was at hand, curious, etc. The sport bottle, it's a sport bottle, easy to open and close and no mess. Also cheap and disposable. My wife always has to have a straw, other friends always have to have a water bottle of some sort, some like the type you mention. Baby talk, it's a girl thing, they do this at times. Thing is, if you're looking for signs, you'll find them. These to me don't just POP out like an pink elephant in the room. These are EXTREMELY suddle gestures if they are. Now, if she were using baby talk and said, "I want my ba ba" or said, "wanna try some baby food, I've tried it, not too bad" then that'd be a different story but these seems so random. Could she be an ab/dl, sure, anythings possible but I'd feel it out more and maybe set up a situation where she could make a larger gesture like go through a pharmacy with her and walk down the incontinence aisle to go get something else in the store and see what she says or if she says anything. You could perform some suddle "tests" of your own but be prepared to be disappointed as it's the most likely outcome. Sorry to rain on your parade. Just no seeing it.

Hi everyone, I am really interested in how people got into wearing diapers. specifically your first experience. Mine was when i was 13 or 14 and i was flying from the UK to Las Vegas US for a holiday, i was with my parents and as the drinks on board were free i kept drinking them. After visiting the restroom for about the 5th time i saw some free disposable baby diapers in the changing toilet, so i put one inside my boxer shorts and returned to my seat. I was watching the film and felt the need to pee so just let it go and wet the diaper after doing this a few times i felt a small leak and rushed to the toilets to change it. the feeling was great and this was the start of my DL lifestyle. I would love to hear your first few experiences.

While I cannot condone this type of behaviour from any individual in this lifestyle it still pains me to see that there is far, far too much focus on how overweight the subject of Tris's rant was...... Why Tris? Why do you feel the need to berate the individual about their weight? Its not just you either. Poking fun at overweight individuals seems to be a national past time for many folks.....

Cruel, but good word choice. That's the problem with deciding you're better than someone else for whatever reason. It always comes off cruel. Next time, instead of making it about this person or that, make it about the cause, and your feelings. Don't come off as judge, jury, and executioner. I'm sure I'm an idiot too many times to count! And I've been torn into like that from time to time, about other things, some deserved. It always kills something inside me, takes something away I can never get back, and leaves me bloodied and wounded and alone and withered. Just a thought.

good points - I'll even accept your spelling errors (maybe you have spelling issues, don't like spell check or were using your cell phone). Tris, I did like your first post - overall, though not in every detail. Unfortunately, I think you've gotten carried away a little in your further responses - could it be you were really looking for a flame response and not getting it decided to come back in and bait? Too bad you didn't quit while you had so many in agreement with you.

I wear miniskirts in 40F .... only put on a coat (jacket really) if it's colder than 50F .... when I walk (and I'm skinny) more than a block my body temperature rises to the point where I can get hot in the snow. Seriously, some people can stand even colder temps, though I prefer warmer temps it's not impossible for someone to be warm or even hot in "cold" weather. Also, if you are judging someone by "what's attractive" ... then you really should get your head examined.

140 is underweight for females.

How you look at things changes the things you see The person you described isn't a pretty picture if your assessment of their motivation is correct I don't like our community publicly portrayed in any negative fashion But I also value freedom of expression and if someone wants to do this they shouldn't be hated Now if this person wasn't as you saw them, and indeed didn't wish exposure, then your perspective created something bad when it didn't exist before and in that you'd be wrong I'm still at a loss as to what to think about people who give our community bad public exposure. I detest those who do it intentionally but it's their right so I can't justify doing anything more than trying to get them to stop doing it via argument and explanation I don't lose sleep over it or let it become something overwhelming- it's just one more thing that I cannot fully understand among many such things in life I'll stay out of the obesity argument save for one comment- as long as you're not unhealthy because of your weight and it isn't bothering you there is no problem. I don't like my 'extra ballast' but it's not too bad I'd like to lose it but if I don't it's not an issue for me. If you don't like that then the problem is yours Maybe the answers will come someday and maybe not. In the meantime I have better things to do that I can accomplish, so off I go to deal with those things Bettypooh

Absolutely! What kind of trash is this? Makes the poster look like a complete anti. Maybe he is. And yet many people backed it? Maybe it's just a wind-up. I can't seriously believe someone would have sick and judgemental opinions such as this.

BTW, what did the transgendered have to do with the topic at hand? Really, what did gender have to do with this topic? Seriously, it's like "Hey I need wallpaper, what do you recommend?" "TRANNY!!!!!!!!!!!" Well this site lost a senior member and is close to losing two. For all of you that are whining about acceptence, you won't get it because you don't deserve it. If you're going to live your life like what you are is disgusting then you will always be treated that way I used to be where all of you were until I realized that if it weren't for the infantilism I'd still be an outcast, still be a freak and still be weird. Hell compared to some of the abdls I've run into on diaperspace, in Connecticut, I'm pretty damn normal and proud of who I am. I don't message people asking to be spanked in a shitty diaper or anything else that would be bizarre or disgusting. Again, I am just dumbfounded by some of the comments on this thread. Oh and one last thing, when you have to announce that you're tolerant then generally you are not.

Tris, No Mod can keep someone here who wishes to leave. You would do well to stop and think about how others are going to take what you say- it's clear that many of them are not receiving the message you think you're sending. They do seem to get what everyone else says clearly though. Once words have passed they can't be undone. If they hurt someone that hurt will remain, even if they find it in their heart to forgive you. So many times I am sorely tempted to post a reply but I wait till I can chill, because when I'm agitated I say things I shouldn't. You would do well to do the same. I feel like sh!t here on Christmas Eve now and this shouldn't be happening. Bettypooh

Have you ever associated with smart people outside of Mensa? That's not necessarily a good outlet for genius as it's more of a cock measuring contest over standardized testing. I had the good fortune to attend an advanced middle school. As such, I learned humility for intelligence at an early age as all of my peers were just as smart, or smarter, than me. And most of all, we learned that being smart didn't make us right in arguments. So, unless you like coming off as a knob, you might want to cool it with the smartest-guy-in-the-room bit.

The level of intolerance of others kinks among those with kinks themselves always amazes me...I mean, here we were, afraid we were all alone, then suddenly we find out we're to some degree "normal", now we are upset with someone wanting to create their fantasy...all the while, we smugly living out our own fantasies of being diapered constantly..... I'm for consciousness....and to carry this out, you are going to need to have some friends you really trust, with your life....being all bound up is a very dangerous position to be in if anything should happen, like the house catch on fire, or if anything goes wrong with you. It's also a very vulnerable position, and, although I've personally never paid for sex, I've heard stories that tell me that those that charge for it are largely just like the rest of us...quite varied, some take you to the cleaners, others more businesslike.....some can get freaked out with what you want, others not so much... So you are going to need a long-term relationship of some kind to carry this out. And a friend to come check on you. Work on finding your local BDSM group, get to know people in it, get to know people in general. And be flexible, you may have to do someone else's fantasy first to get parts of yours carried out. Good luck...

Sorry Drew i have formerly known as "Battle Fatigue" now Called Post Traumatic Stress Disorder- Concentration Camp Survivor Syndrome, I happen to know more than a few Bi-Polars who are on the right medication and lead normal everyday lives just like you or I,or should I say I because you appear to have Biases against certain Disabled Economic or racial segments of society whereas I believe in tolerance and peace and accommodation for everyone we all have a role in this world if we all where alike there would be no fabric to society no marital unions no children born no difference between you me and anyone else, everything would be a shade of gray. Peace

I fieel mostly out of place here and that it is age-weighted. My point of reference is DPF and it's membership codes 1 The oppressive pre=dominance of disposable diapers 2 the sub-forums a. The "babyfur" things crreps me out and I have never seen that before about 2005 b. lumping together Little Girl and Sissy.. For me "Siss" is like "the N-word" or "fag" c. No sub-forum for baby panties, these were an integral part of thing d. Roleplay is definitely a youth movement e. The whole "reputation" thing is for persons who need social reinforcement and must therefore be 20somethings who do not have it all together yet or similar 3 Look at the predominant age range of the participants if they even bother to list their ages Anyone complaining that it is not "welcoming to the young" Gimme a bread!!! that is what it seems to be mostly about