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there is software where they can disgise (sorry if that's wrong) your voice and darken your voice etc, by law they have to respect your privacy and wishes, I would do it myself and request this.

I have bought some onesies from Chris (BBF) and at one point they were made here in the uk, the second time i bought some they were differant the cotten was thicker and the leg bands were alot better, as to where in the world they were made I couldn't tell you but for quality they have my vote..

Sexual orientation, straight, gay or paraphilic, or combination there-of is not a choice. How we express our orientation is within our control. Irresponsible is if one hurts others by failing to control ones actions. In a fit of anger I might want to hurt or kill but a responsible person does not act on impulse. It is simply the super-ego controling the id, which we (sane (legal) or rational (medical)) are very capable of doing. Most of us understand the difference between feelings and actions hence the many posts re: exhibitionism vis-a-vi this paraphillia. Anondl

I would advise having a couple's session--probably more than one, actually--with a therapist, preferably an AASECT-certified sex therapist (you can search for someone near you at the aasect.org website, or try the Kink-Aware Professionals database at ncsfreedom.org). If there's no one near you, I know a very good sex therapist, with extensive knowledge of AB/DL issues, who does counseling by phone; send me a private message and I'll give you her contact info. Being a fetishist is not a choice, and it will never go away. To ask you to stop being into diapers is to ask you to be someone else, and it's not fair. But, being the non-kinky partner of a kinky person isn't a walk in the park, either. It can be very hard to balance things in your relationship so you're both getting what you want out of it--and it may well be that your girlfriend has legitimate complaints. If you love each other and want to put in the effort, then go for it; a good therapist can help enormously. If one of you really doesn't want to deal with it head-on, though, then in the long term, the kindest thing to do may indeed be to end the relationship.

The desire is immutable. It can be anaylized and rationalized. It can be denied, like when gays used to feel compelled to get married and have kids, but it will likely never go away. The best one can do when involved with another person who is not ab/dl is to make it only a part of the relationship and give special attention her needs. Still there may be problems of jelousy. How many of us have heard something like "you love those diapers more than you do me"? Generally, women are hardwired for monogamy so this desire can be a threat to them. Let her know you love her.

In the late 90's, I was fecal incontinent. There is nothing worse than having an accident at work. I remember vividly having to come home from work to change. My boss knew I had colon-rectal issues. I wore Attends diapers with VIP pants over them at work. I managed to contain the smell to a certain degree. I wouldn't wish fecal incontinence on anyone!

I somehow doubt your story. Though... if you are really looking for help... get some Tranquility Overnight Underwear from Magic Medical.

I'd say a new American stereotype is created as fast as every new American is born ..... but seriously, rickibrat really annoyed me, with his inability to use punctuation or capitals, and his ignorance, and his arrogance. It is said that wisdom comes with age - rickibrat disproves that axiom. To all the 'normal' or so called 'normal' Americans out there... peace.

That sucks, but you brought it upon yourself. I'm guessing next time you'll be up-front about it, and not have to come out the hard way. Do yourself a favor and just move out. You don't deserve to be treated like a baby, even if you want to be. Both of you are going to need some space.

wow way to be a dick about it.. honestly all this time i thought she was being unreasonable.. but here sorta sounds like you two deserve each other... wearing shorts over a diaper is not hiding it.. my lord... if this is how the two of you treat each other, then i understand why she exploded at you.... honestly... the first night you throw it in her face about you wearing diapers then tell her you will not wear shorts over them? yes way to 'ease her into it gently'.... sounds like you both feel you need to be 'in control' and get your own way... thats not what a relationship is about... but good luck to both of you...

i'm sorry, but given the attitudes, i can't help but conclude that most of the people on this forum are introverted basment-dwellers, and have the "nice guy" mentality, and are either virgins, or have never slept with a woman under 200lbs. first off, no. DON'T be "open" and tell your girlfriend at the beginning of a relationship that you have a kink that involves putting on a diaper, shitting yourself, sucking your thumb, and pretending your a baby. that's horrid advice, that's a good way to scare off any one. when she caught you, you should have let her calm down, and explained it to her, and let her know that it's just a kink, and it does not involve children.. also that there are 3 kinds of people in this world 1: those who have kinks 2: people who lie about it 3: people who have not discovered it. also, when she came in with a trash bag, and said to throw it away, i would have called bullshit. NOT because you had to choose between her and the diapers, but because she had the audacity to order you around, and hold the relationship over your head. if she loves you, she won't leave you over it, and is just bluffing. but by you trying to sneak around like a f**king coward, you made matters worse. people please grow a spine. especially when dealing with women. if you lose a girlfriend, there are plenty more out there. no girl should ever be able to say "do_______ or i'm leaving" but i'm sure you have already set a precedent early on in the relationship, of being dependent on her, and she probably uses that to control you any one that is terrified of a girl leaving them, deserves to be alone. have enough self respect to not be a fucking door mat, and realize that if she won't give you what you want, than there are plenty of other girls that will (i.e. her sister, her friends yadda yadda, etc)