Hannah YMS

I think with time the night wettings will come, with practice. But good for you for taking the plunge! Your account is new, so I'm wondering now, were you not involved in the ABDL community before the age of 87? Were your bladder issues the cause of finding this space and giving up on trying to stay dry all the time?

"Diapers for me, but 'things' for thee!" --My impression of a doctor who socially maintains the taboo.

I think it was the language you were using then, because when I read your post I was thinking the same thing. Maybe just say you're going 24/7 for a while and you're not going to hold anything back and will return to your regular lifestyle when you get a job? Unpotty training (or potty untraining), from our experience, is a huge mental and a lifestyle shift. You're essentially claiming that you're going to go all the way but you have caveats for when you're around friends and family and also imply you'll be done when you get a new job -- to us that's not really untraining, that's on-again, off-again language. Best of luck to you in finding a new job and trying out the 24/7 lifestyle for a while!

Is it possible your penis has been kinked within your diaper, like a kinked water hose, preventing you from flowing freely?

I've worn one of my stents for about a month without any issues. When I retrieved it, it did have a thin mineral-like film covering the inside of the stent. I don't recommend going a month though. Realistically, to be safe, I would pull it out and clean it once a week, being sure to also address the film buildup. Rubbing alcohol does a pretty decent job of getting most of the film off, but you'll need a pipe cleaner or something to really get in there and clean it well. Boiling the stent for at least 10 minutes should take care of any bacterial build-up in between cleanings, with the idea that you put the stent in shortly after it was boiled. Regarding the foley catheter, discoloring is normal even under recommended use. Catheters aren't meant to be used long-term, though, so your mileage may vary as to whether or not it's good to go for months during the wear-clean-wear cycle.

Let's try to help you out. What is your budget? How much can you guarantee that you can spend per month on diapers and other supplies?

Do you wear 24/7 and/or are you untraining?

Still low key jealous of the progress you've made with your stent. I've made maybe 20-30 stents in my time. I still can't do a lineless stent, but your progress gives me a little hope that refinement of my own build is still possible. I've been thinking of ways to make the perfect measurements, but you seem to have done it by trial and error. Nice work.

I'm from Alaska and can confirm the tastiness of Texas BBQ. But what you Texans need to learn is we have bigger burgers (well, bigger everything... [Edit: except snakes, we don't have snakes, so you can have that one]) Thanks for another great update Becca!

My answer assumes you've been struggling with OAB for a while, but it sounds like you've practiced having an "iron bladder" throughout your urges -- wherein you try to hold it as long as possible and get used to being in that state. It seems to me you've defaulted into that sort of state due to the anxiety of almost always wetting yourself. So in agreement with @Dicalecus, your remedy is to practice relaxation (while wearing protection of course). "Reverse Kegels", if you will. You'll need to get to a point where your strong urges cause a relaxation of your pelvic floor through a lot of repetition. After a while, say a few months to a year, and your urges will just become a reflex to void, and voila, achievement get. Perhaps you have a shy bladder while also having OAB. There's a breathing technique to help you release your urine if you're pee shy. I would start with that technique, if needed, then just keep practicing the reverse Kegels and relaxing. That's my take, at least.

I agree on your two assertions here. There really are alternatives that can achieve similar goals without long-term damage (if done right), and a lot of people who wish to achieve incontinence should indeed take a fine tooth comb with mental health issues, if any, especially if any issues revolve around ABDL/diapers/potty training. That said, I'd like to highlight "Two.b", if I may. Two.b is not something that is really talked about on this subforum. Perhaps if we had more discussion about the negative mental health effects of not being able to achieve incontinence in "the normal fashion", and if we took that seriously for a change, it may go farther in convincing people that we're not as deluded as we think we are. I'll even go first. I've made a stent comfortable enough to wear for up to a month. I've spent that entire month 100% urinary incontinent. I've drudged through the hundred diaper changes, public and private, that it took to not wet my jeans for an entire month. And for (almost) that entire time, I was euphoric about my "condition". For an entire month I was unable to feel my bladder fill up. It was a huge relief! I just dripped and dribbled for the most part, and felt untimely bursts of wetness at the times I was active. It did get annoying a few times (because it was inconvenient for me to change, or for another reason), but at the end of the day, I loved nearly every minute of it. Unfortunately, when I take the stent out, I go right back to being continent again. The euphoria wears off and the dysphoria comes back. "Why can't I just become incontinent?!?", I secretly scream into the void while reality hits me yet again. Tis a shame, indeed. At least I know I'm not alone, and if needed, I can wear my stent again. While it gets the job done, it's still not enough. Nothing ever will be, I'm afraid. Surgery may or may not be an option for me, but I'm glad I at least have that avenue while it exists. (For what it's worth, I've worn my stent multiple times. Sometimes for a few days, sometimes for 3 weeks, I just chose the one month example because it's the longest I've worn my stent without a break.)

I am not sure if I would do it or not. I mean, orgasms are kind of nice... At this stage of my life, I'd lean toward yes, but I'd still be on the fence about it for a while.

I couldn't tell you what kind, but if you can't stop yourself from wetting and making messes, then that's indeed incontinence.

"Oh, well, y'know, you wouldn't get it. It's an inside joke."

It's true that poor Internet literacy and cult-like following is fairly prevalent online. We humans are prone to fall into cult-like traps and it happens all the time. But still, it's good to reflect and ask ourselves, "Are we like that? Are we doing the same thing?" Well, my answer is biased, but I don't think that subforum is as culty as some might claim. We tend to have a healthy degree of rational thought and healthy debate, even if the quality of that thought or debate is sometimes poor. It doesn't help that our common love for diapers, intentionally or unintentionally, feeds into the narrative one way or another. When a group of people, however small that group might be, all come together and recognize a shared identity and existence, it's hard to claim that there's not some degree of confirmation bias and a rabbit-hole like nature, but I wouldn't say it's down the tube, metaphorically speaking. So we must admit that the small group is going to be leaning heavily one-way as opposed to the other way, and that is something, I think, that can't be helped. So, yes and no, but not so much of a 'yes' that we've become delusional, in my opinion.