hi
I think you need to find a balance and once you find the balance it becomes a blessing and I have found my blessing with my baby boy whom I love as my boyfriend and as my baby.
but being in a parent/child relationship is not easy having to attend to your little one especially if they are very regressive as mines is. I have never considered being a mommy a curse but frutstrating. During my searching for that right baby to fit into my lifestyle and with my family. I came into this lifestyle as AB mommy knowing what I was exaclty looking for so i was able to keep a clear head during my search.
here are my reason for why some ABs in the community might find it a curse
1 feeling alone b/c they cant find a mommy or daddy
2 feeling afriad to be themselves and being judged
3 lossing family friends and even lovers if they find out
4. not being able to understand themselves
I could go on but i will stop.
When an adult baby cant find someone to relate to they feel alone. Searching for that person they can connect with, and if this search still leaves them alone with no connection than it can become a curse for some adult babies
however for me it has been blessing and I dont regret being a mommy I compare it to a biological mommy getting a call a from the adoption agency and they have said we have a baby up for adoption and it yours. This is how I felt when i met my baby brett. It was awesome and amazing to be able to find a Adult baby I can relate with and also bring happiness to his life as well as mines! After finding Brett and being able to work on the nursery and blance our lives together it became more of a reality that became my blessings being in a parent/child relationship with someone I love
mommy