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Yay, a hundred views in the first day. Just so we're clear, I really do intend to write an actual story when I have more spare time and more inspiration. I just like to most of the details planned out before I jump into writing full chapters, and I like other people to be part of the brainstorming process. I'm here to just brag about whatever situation I've stumbled upon in life as a matter of dumb luck. And I'm not here to lie and tell you all about a fantasy life I wish I had. I think the reason most people don't write about real life is that real life gets boring some times. Every day is just another day with some highlights sprinkled in that you either spend all your time remembering or looking forward to. On the other hand, I feel writing a story with characters and scenes grounded in reality can some times increase reader interest by being more believable and not just disregarded as purely fantasy. Anyways, to continue where I left off about ideas I want to try to incorporate into a story, I find it fascinating how easy it is to tell your darkest secrets to complete strangers on the internet. Imagine you've got a really good friend in real life. You've got a lot of history with that person. You're used to acting a certain way around that person, and you're used to viewing that person in a certain way. People say if you can't trust your friends with your darkest secrets, then they aren't really good friends. But sometimes you might be hesitant to tell certain secrets to even your closest friends because it'll completely change how they see you and how they interact with you. Even if you don't outright lose them as a friend, you might lose what closeness you used to have. When it comes ab/dl stuff, it's just not usually worth the risk. Here, I want you to know this super personal secret about me, but it doesn't change anything between us. I don't want you to be my caretaker or anything, it just felt like something you should know as my friend. But when it comes to people on the internet who you've never met and probably never will meet in person, why not just tell them anything and everything? Who cares if they react negatively? You didn't really know them, so you didn't really lose anything. But suppose they don't react negatively. Now you have this person in your life you can tell things that you can't tell anybody else. I'm not gonna tell my housemates or my school friends that I sucked on a pacifier and pissed myself last night. I don't gain anything from that, yet I run the risk of everyone else I live or go to school with finding out about it and judging me or disowning me. But I can tell some stranger on the internet on the off chance this stranger who didn't care about me and who I didn't care about understands. Telling a potential partner about this sort of stuff is different. You still run the risk of being judged and losing their friendship. But in exchange you have the chance that they won't mind it so much and might even be willing to participate. As a side note, I've read a lot of stories about main characters who are fully committed to the adult baby or diaper lover lifestyle and demand their partners indulge them or won't stop until they find someone else who will. And I've read stories about characters who absolutely do not want anything to do with ab/dl stuff and are forced into it against their will until they learn to enjoy it. I want to write a story about someone who at some point realizes the baby stuff pushed one of his partners away. He's accepted how hard it is to find a suitable partner and how much harder it is to find one who is willing to take care of him. He doesn't want some random chick on an ab/dl website with the only thing they have in common being his desire to be babied and her willingness to baby him. He wants to fall in love with a girl first and then find out she's willing to baby him later as an added bonus that brings them even closer together. Or if the only thing standing in the way of them being together is his kink, he's willing to give it up for the right girl. Just like an addiction to sex or an addiction to smoking, he'd give it up if everything else about the girl was perfect and made it worth it for him. So then he finds someone who makes him happy first. He introduces the idea of baby stuff little by little. And then at the end of it all, not only is she willing to baby him, but she's glad he was able to be so honest with her. She knows how much it took for him to let her see him at his worst. And even though she's not going to ask him to give it up for her, she's flattered he would have tried to for her. But even though she's willing to try being his mommy, she doesn't claim to fully understand why he wants her to. Nor does she claim to understand she knows how he wants her to be his mommy. He's never really had a mommy so loving and so willing, so he's not really sure what he wants her to do either. He has ideas about things I might enjoy from stories he's read, but there's still a lot of experimentation and uncharted territory between them.

I'm pretty sure this belongs in the "writer's lair" and not the main "story time" forum, but the last reply there was way back in November. I know it's selfish of me to put it here instead of there hoping it'll collect more eyeballs this way, but I couldn't find any rules that the main forum was only for stories that are actually written. Basically, I've gotten tired of reading about one-dimensional characters in unrealistic fantasy scenarios that climax on the second page. Sure there are a lot of good writers on this forum with a lot of good material, but as with any other niche fetish-inspired genre, there's still a lot of uncharted territory in terms of character development. I've begun collecting a list of ideas I'd like to explore in a story I want to write, but I don't think I have much time to write out the whole story any time soon. I'd like to put these ideas out there either so that I could get some advice and some feedback that would help me move forward or so that someone else can borrow some of these ideas and incorporate them into his or her own writing. As of my posting these things, everything is up for grabs. The first thing I want to incorporate into my story is how to tell a vanilla person you're into adult diapers and ageplay. What has worked for me in the past has been introducing the scene bit by bit focusing on one babyish item or act at a time. For example, I usually start by telling someone I own an adult sized pacifier. It's a security blanket type thing. I had a lot of trouble falling asleep when I was growing up. My mind would always be racing and wandering. The pacifier would draw my attention from other things and relax me, making me feel safe and secure. If the person reacts negatively then I can respond with "It helps me sleep some times, but I don't need it to sleep. I'm not dependent on it." and they don't have to hear about anything else. Nothing that would completely shatter the image of the grown up person they interact with. If the person instead responds favorably, I can go further. I own a baby bottle as well. It takes so much energy and concentration to get anything to come out of it. By the time I've suckled the last drop, all of my worries from the day have faded away. Then I can talk about how ideal it would be to not have any responsibilities, to have someone else look after you and love you unconditionally, and to feel safe and warm and content. Acting like a little kid some times and playing with baby stuff some times makes me feel these things. It's just something I do behind closed doors to take the edge off the day. I don't usually mention anything about diapers unless I'm in a relationship or pursuing a relationship with the person. For me, diapers are sometimes relaxing like other baby stuff but almost always arousing unlike other baby stuff. For this reason, the topic doesn't really come up unless I'm discussing sex with a potential partner. The second thing I wanted to incorporate into my story is how ageplay can be either arousing or relaxing or playful for me and my partner. For example, when my mommy changes me, sometimes she'll play with my boy parts a little before taping my diaper on. And instead of putting my shorts back on right away, she'll lay on top of me and make out with me a little while groping me or rubbing me through my diaper. And finally after a little more teasing back and forth with some changes in position, the tapes come off and that's that. Other times, diaper changes are very mild. Mommy will give me Mr. Bear so I'm not staring at her and have something to do with my hands as well. The shorts go on right away after the diaper and then mommy lays down so I can cuddle against and on top of her as we get settled in for bedtime. The simple act of me sucking on her breasts can go both ways as well. Some times I'll go real slow with my lips pressed gently against her, using just my tongue to pull her nipple into my mouth. We'll both have our eyes closed, and then after a long while of the same slow movement, we'll both feel super relaxed and close to each other. Other times, I'll suck a little harder. I won't bite, but I'll push a bit chunk of her breast into my upper teeth with my tongue. And I'll wrap my hand around her breast, groping her slowly but firmly with the same rhythm as my tongue. Then unless mommy stops it early, it spirals downhill from there. The last thing I can think of right now is the fear of ageplay completely taking over a relationship. Because the ageplay stuff isn't limited to sex, it becomes something I want all or most of the time. When I'm on the phone with my girlfriend, my default setting is to call her mommy and talk like a toddler (nearly no actual baby talk but just a little kid sounding "accent" with some mispronunciations and over-simplified grammar.) And it's completely different from how we interacted when we first stated dating, what she thought she was getting into. Where's the confident, smooth-talking romantic she signed on for? It's late now, and I forgot what else I wanted to say about this topic. But I definitely want to write about this sort of conflict.