Thank you vey much for the input. I feel as if I have separated my two sides now. I just simply turn on my child side when I get home and that has been working to keep both sides happy. But what I still struggle with is that at times I still will shut out my friends to stay home and wear diapers. What I think it is, is that I don't like it when my routine gets interrupted. That may be sort of the better of two evils, and I may learn to live with it and work with it but. Also I am getting better at realizing that my abdl side is not weird but I really struggle in the mornings when I get to work and I think "what would these people think of me if they knew what I did last night? Somebody is probably going to say "who cars what other people think" well I do because I work with these people and I have to interact with them every day.