i have been on the diapers chat room on and off now for just over a year now, i have heard people saying that they are to ashamed to wear diapers in pubilc, why? im incontinant and have been wearing for 4 years now and i used to feel the same way, but now i dont care what people think or say, it does not matter. othier people dont live our lives. and dont feel the we do. we have feelings to, but they dont care about that, they just think it makes them self look good to put someone else down. i have people say things to me all the time, sure they laugh, but when i ask them would it be better for me to stand in a store with urine running down my leg and making puddles on the floor for people to walk through and maybe slip and hurt them self, they answer well o no that would be a bad thing. i also ask them what kind of a person walks a round judging othiers. they walk away.. im saying if your incontinant, ab dl... so what do what you feel is right for you and be happy..dont worry what othiers think, they dont live your life you do. and if your friends are really a friend they will stand by you. i guess over 4 years i have learned a lot about being ashamed, dont be its a waste of time there's nothing to be ashamed of but shame it self...... wear your diapers and be proud of it....idl john.. p.s its not othiers peoples business what you wear under or in the open..