bbj

Has always been about the baby!

Somebody in real life in real time wanting to use theinterweb/social media to expose this aspect

I think you miss the point Somebody else wants to "put the bedroom in the public square"

Unfortunately I have recently experienced a threat of blackmail and exposure via social media regarding my very private and intimate tendencies as a lifelong (54 yrs)

I know she needs it She knows she needs it For all the reasons mentioned above plus some I love her I will meet her needs And IT'S FUN

having had the experience of sharing this 'lifestyle/fetish/need' with my ex wife of twenty years and my current wife of five years, i would have to agree that coming clean on this as early as possible in the relationship would be fairest option for all concerned. as hard as it may be to open up to somebody else, let alone articulate in some way that makes any sense or meaning.( lord knows it's hard enough for myself to understand and accept), it needs to be done in the steps towards a truly honest and trusting relationship. hindsight is a wonderful thing but i can see now that my marriage to my first wife was over well before i uttered my first stumbling words about my secret i had kept, believing that it may help save our marriage in some way. I would'nt say it was the final straw that broke it or the dealbreaker, but it just became another issue in the 'too hard basket'. my confession led to many visits to a psychologist, at her insistance, even though i had readied myself with information for her. I was diagnosed with major depression which was a relief in a way because I was not functiontng very well at all and my 'regressive urges' were nearly out of control. the marriage ended but we have kept an amicable relationship, with her even asking me if I had told my new partner about my stuff as she put it. my current partner (wife) knew of my need, to some extent at least, from very early days of the relationship. her limited involvement in bdsm made it easier to broach the subject but trying to explain the nitty gritty of it all has still been chalenging and embarresing. incorporating it into a balanced life style amongst all the other dynamics within the relationship remains a work in progress and a very enjoyable one at that.

thanks for all the input guys and gals always interesting to hear others take on these matters as much as we don't mind calling a diaper a nappy, we enjoy the fun of creating our own secret language

my partner and I were discussing this today in the past, when I am diapered, we have reffered to it as packing, ie "are you packiing (diapered)" we have decided we need to come up with a new code word any ideas would be appreciated I'm sure there are many who share a secret language

so nice to see you here baby x

As the wife of bbj I must say that your article was the most honest and comprehensive piece of written material on this subject that I've found. My husband and I live our lives as best friends, lovers and sometimes just big kids together. It wasn't until recently that the realisation that his 'need' for being an AB, and his thoughts that it wasn't accepted on a frequent basis led to a frustration and irrational anger which turned him from me and our family. Although I've always told him that I understand, it wasn't until a very recent date that he feels able and comfortable to be in his diapers without the fear of ridicule...something I've never in the past done, but he's felt within himself. I love the strength of my darling husband as a man, adore the humour he has as my best friend, and respect the need he has as an A.B. But, being somewhat as a L.G myself, struggle with the idea of a mother role. But, with your words and insight, I feel we have a way to forge forward. Thankyou for your honesty and advice.

love it, specialy being straddled by my girl whilst I lay on my back

When love and joy seem so distant Life's pain at times remains so constant Encased in plastic feels fantastic Soaking cotton I fall back on Aaagh! Venting Aaagh!

i have had a simmilar experience and found what works best for us is that every time i wear, my wife is owed a fantastic foot massage, she loves this type of 'spoil' the most. her spoils are not limited to only the times i wear but it creates a win-win scenario that works for us,not withstanding my particular gross out feeling of touching anybody elses feet! even the times i have 'packed'(our code word) without her awareness i will tell her i owe her a spoil. now if it's been a while since a special spoil she will light heartedly ask if i plan on packing anytime soon. hope this has been of some help to you

wondering how other people's wives/girlfriends deal with thier partners' ab/dl side.my wife has always accepted and loved me but said she struggles with the image of her man in nappies. I generaly have the daddy role in our relationship and whilst we both enjoy this most of the time i sometimes need time out to enjoy my little side.

new to the board and looking forward to meeting new friends