Jen Harris

Can't wait to see how diapers get introduced.  Good story so far!

I feel like I don't fit into a category of just one fetish.  I love the feel of warm pee in my panties,running down my legs, deliberate or accidental. Sometimes I want to be diapered for my wetting, sometimes I want to be spanked for being so naughty and sometimes I want to wet my panties, be spanked for doing it and put into diapers.  And sometimes I would like to be treated as a baby for being so naughty for a longer period of time. I love discipline and I know that I need it too.  Am I the only one?

Certainly you aren't.  That's the line of most my fantasies.  A spanked bottom and a diaper under my skirt...  that's my fantasy.

I happen not to be a genetic girl, or even truly a transwoman, but I'm certainly no stranger to getting diapered for wetting my panties.  It's a pity it's so hard find a good mommy/daddy when I actually do want to play out such a scenario (which is certainly not every night).

And yup, sometimes I want the punishment to last longer, maybe even start potty training all over.

How is anyone going to know you don't have a medical issue? Are they going to ask you to go to the doctor to confirm you have a medical issue or ask you to bring in your medical papers to show it? There are people out there that are too embarrassed to go to the doctor for their problem. It isn't anyone's business why I wear them.

 

Oh and I am sure an incontinent person can still get fired but it wouldn't be for their medical condition, it would be for not taking proper care of themselves (actually that has happened because someone said so on ADISC, he had to fire someone for that if I remember correctly) and work does require their employees to have good hygiene. So if a AB/DL got fired for that, they didn't take proper care of it, not because they were wearing to work.

Count me as among those who have worn to work and have never had a problem.

I cannot imagine your employer asking you about what underwear you wear to work and having it not be a lawsuit.  Need or not.  Can you imagine an employer calling a woman into his office and asking her if she's wearing crotchless panties because that's not appropriate workplace attire?  No, of course not.  It's none of their business.  What if you did have a leak or failure or whatever.  Is your boss going to ask if you peed your pants?   Most people would assume you spilled a drink, sat in a puddle, or whatever.   What if he did see a suspicious piece of plastic when you bent over?  Odds are, he'll think nothing of it, or if he does, he might think you have IBS or whatever.   Inquiring about medical necessity itself seems wrong and rude to me.   What if you did have a bout of IBS or an awful stomach bug - would you want to have to disclose that to your employer?  You shouldn't have to.

Now I think there are a lot of things that people do we can all agree that give us all a bad name, and are not appropriate in the least.  As an example, people who wet and ask strangers to change them.  People who parade around in just a diaper or flash their diaper at women.  Messing and not changing and getting your jollies when people notice the smell.  Involving "innocents" for your own fun is not acceptable.  If an innocent person happens to notice despite your efforts to hide it, I don't see a huge problem (of course if this terrifies you, you shouldn't do it!)

Really I think as long as you act like a person who is legitimately incontinent would, there's nothing wrong with it.  An incontinent person is, most of all, not going to show off their diaper  or call attention to it.  

Mostly I feel the same way about crossdressing, now that I think about it.  Just because you're crossdressing doesn't make it appropriate to do something that would be inappropriate for a woman in the same context - flashing your panties to everyone for instance.  

If you really feel a need to be observed by others in your baby garb, go to an ab/dl meetup in a private location, where you know a diaper and a t-shirt might be fine.  

It's really this "needing to involve 'innocent'" people that I don't like.  If you want to show off your diapered/sissy state, there are plenty of good ways and places to do it.  Just don't force it on other people.  It gives all of us a bad name.  Posting reviews like the OP on amazon counts as inappropriate to me.  Posting a review of an Abena M3, without ever mentioning fetish stuff (even though you don't wear for need), would be fine in my mind.  Writing a review that includes something like "making cummies in my diaper" would not be.

It is a little common sense.  But wearing diapers at work because you enjoy it - whether it makes you aroused, or it makes you just feel more comfortable, or because one time you had a bladder infection and you wet yourself and you're so terrified of it happening again you always want to err on the safe side - I just don't see how that's wrong.  And honestly I wouldn't want to work for an employer who goes on a witch hunt because he/she saw some bulges and thinks I might be wearing a diaper.  

3 weeks early or so, but very large, especially for that age (9-10 lbs, maybe?)

I don't think I'll ever know for sure where my interest came from, but I know I was a tough one to potty train, and my brother was born around the time I was turning 3 and would have been potty training.  I probably had a lot of setbacks (regression when a sibling is born is common) and a lot of maternal rage ensued.   I have only one memory of having an accident, which involved #2, and being really terrified of the consequences.  I never was a bedwetter, but was jealous of my friend across the street who was, since he got night time diapers!

In fact, though, some of my first clear memories involve stealing diapers from my brother at 6, trying to use them, and trashing them in the diaper pail before my parents noticed. 

I have to think it's something to do with my mother - who was generally a very loving, caring mother, but had bursts of rage (that did mellow as she got older).

I'm not an AB either.  If I do role play, I prefer to be a high school/teenager who is having accidents.  BUT....

As the other thread I started - "Why Is It So Much Better When Someone/something Tells You To Wear?", I greatly prefer to give up independence, at least around whether or not I'm in diapers.

In fact in general, I do like giving up some independence - having rules, punishments, direction.  This desire comes and goes with my moods.  If I'm tired, stressed, and so on, I often really crave someone to tell me what to do.  I might (as I did last night) have an accident and see if I get in trouble.

Now in a broader sense it isn't really giving up independence.   I would never want to be a full time little (well, sometimes the idea is attractive, but I know I'd change my mind).  

To me, being an AB, even temporarily, means giving up a lot of decisions to Mommy/Daddy.  Unless you are only indulging in the clothing and other trappings - if you decide yourself to wear a diaper, a onesie, suck on a bottle and watch Sesame Street, that's you.  But a lot of what Mommy/Daddy is doing is protecting you from all those hard decisions that independence brings.  To me that's a lot of the appeal.  You don't even worry about going to the bathroom, because Mommy/Daddy will change you if you do.  You don't worry about what to eat because mommy/daddy will feed you.  You don't worry about what to wear because mommy/daddy will dress you.  Etc.

That giving up control appeals to me.  To be honest I am not an AB mostly because I find the idea of being put in a crib to watch children's TV and play with blocks painfully boring.  But giving up control in general is something I do appreciate - sometimes.

I can't really see having a mommy/daddy to an AB that doesn't do any of those things.   But of course, that doesn't mean giving up anything more than that hour (or day, or whatever) of regression.  What happens outside of that  would entirely depend on what your mommy/daddy was looking for in a relationship.  I know I don't want to be in a relationship that's controlling 24/7.

I have no problem with mommy/daddy deciding that I need to be in diapers for the next few days until I stop having so many accidents, but if mommy/daddy was deciding who I should hang out with, controlling my calendar, and basically dictating my life - I'd hate that.  I have had very controlling relationships before, and it really grinds me down.  I used to really wish she'd just give me a spanking rather than verbally abuse me if she was upset, but she wouldn't go for it.  To me that'd be turning something negative into a positive.