@Mark84 Notice it’s the single people that say they wouldn’t stand for not being able to do whatever they wanted? Marriage is hard and is full of compromises. Maybe one day they will be married and will get that. In the meantime, congrats on having the courage to tell your wife and having her understand.
For me, I had given up diapers when my wife and I started getting serious. I wasn’t ready to tell her and didn’t want her to find out. 6 years later, she has bladder issues and pees almost every time she sneezes out coughs hard. She wears incontinence pads every day. I have leak issue to, but never wanted to tell her. Eventually I did and started wearing guards. I eventually got the courage to buy pull-ups and told her truthfully that I did cause the guards were uncomfortable. I now wear pull-ups every day. I never told her I like them or that I would wear them even if I didn’t have slight leaks and probably never will. I’d love to be able to order full on diapers instead of just pull-ups but I am still afraid to “come out” to her about my DL side.