I live in Alameda. Google Nation's Alameda on public trans, and tell me how easy, close, and cheap it is to get to San Jose and further south. When I say South California, I include South Bay as well. That's not really correct, but it's just not cost-effective for me to spend 3hrs on buses or more, plus whatever time spent dolling myself up. All on the chance that I will find someone I will connect with. Someone that will most likely not want to make much trips to see me, as I would feel about making trips to see them. So probably once or twice a month at best. If it doesn't really work out, or it's just someone that I think is just okay, rather then cool, then it still seems like a waste to me. I don't mean to bitch or whine, but it's just not that cost effective to me. Maybe for some of you, you feel that's worth it, and that's great. Just don't put your ideals on me.