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Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us. You are a beautiful person and a very good Mommy. You have a wonderful relationship with your friend, Barb. I hope she knows how much you appreciate her. Perhaps you will send her a card or flowers or take her out to dinner. She brings out the best in you. She seems to know just what you need and it is good that you listen to her and follow her instructions. You probably want to spend more time with her and explore a deeper trust relationship. You can let us know what else you learn from her as she guides you. She seems to be an expert and knows just what she is doing and you seem so fulfilled in your experiences. You are more confident in yourself when she is coaching you. Everyone needs a special trustworthy friend like that. We all can learn a lot from you two. So thanks for sharing. It is so interesting that after you let her take control, you were ready to be in control with a strong desire to make your boyfriend be a baby for the weekend. Sounds like you both had a wonderful time together. Did he respond well to all your commands? How did he do in baby-mode? Did he really get into it? Besides wearing diapers and eating baby food in a high chair, what else did you have him do? Did you make him use baby-talk, toddler walk, play with toys, suck his thumb or pacifier, drink a bottle, nurse from you before naptime, watch Barney or other kiddie shows? What baby clothes does he have? If you are looking for ideas to help him get into 'baby-space' so he regresses and has a more authentic experience, you might make a list of baby behaviours for him to learn and then spend the weekend practicing those using a system of punishment and rewards. For rewards you can give him a sticker when he gets the behaviour right consistently. And when he earns so many stickers you can give him something he really wants or enjoys so he will be highly motivated to get it right. If he continues to resist or mess up that's when punishments come in (spanking, time outs, take away stickers earned, withhold things he wants and enjoys, threaten to tell someone you both know that he wears diapers-the threat of embarrassment can be a good deterrent for some). And once he has those behaviours down, then you can invite Aunt Barb over to watch him perform. Then you will be so proud of him and enjoy that special feeling of success and fulfilment with your friend affirming your accomplishments. Some baby behaviours you might consider are: colouring (using only his weak hand or wearing mittens), read you a baby book, performing a nursery rhyme (Little Bunny FooFoo), doing the desperate peepee potty dance when he has to go bad, toddler talk/walk, casual thumb sucking, playing with a stuffed toy as a special friend, etc. I'm sure you can think of plenty more that you might like to have him try. The idea is to make the experience as authentic as possible for you both. One way to start would be to diaper and dress him and then feed him a bottle or two with his head on your lap on the couch. (If you need him to relax and let down, give him a few beers before you start). Have him close his eyes while you talk softly in his ear and regress him back to baby land. Make sure you use Mommy talk all the time. Tell him all things you want him to do in baby land. Then tell him about the rewards and punishments. Then go over each behaviour again and ask him if he's going to be a good baby and do those things. Get him to say 'yes' to each behaviour to seal your deal. Once he agrees you can confidently enforce your rules. You can even use key words to trigger certain behaviours if you want. (For example, when you say the word 'No' loud and emphatically, he should respond by crying for a minute for being scolded and not getting his way.) Try it, it will be fun. Then let us know how it goes. If he needs help with certain behaviours, you can look them up on YouTube and get him to watch those until he memorizes every move. You can find good clips of the peepee potty dance, performing nursery rhymes, casual thumb sucking, crying, and other childish behaviours on YouTube. Again the point is to create an authentic experience for you both. Remember practice makes perfect. Have fun.

Thanks, Annee, for sharing your journey with us. Your path seems so fulfilling, joyful, and full of pleasure and deep satisfaction in your Mommy/Son relationship. Your story is honest and insightful as you remain true to yourself and who you are.

One thing Mommy really likes is for me to watch her get dressed or when she undresses and to get excited by her sexy body. That's when she likes it when I touch my dipee and get myself all excited when I'm watching her. That really turns her on.

What rules are the foundation of your Mommy/ABDL relationship?

My mommy says she enjoys the feeling of control and power she has over me when I'm her diaper boy. She likes it when I'm vunerable and compliant. She also enjoys the intimacy and the special attention I give her. She knows she can get what she wants. And she always does. What she doesn't like is when she wants my attention and tells me it's diapertime, and I try to get out of wearing them because I'm not in the mood. Some time I like to be in control and do what I want to do. But I can get into big trouble for that. She insists that wearing diapers is no longer up to me. We are way beyond that. Since she's the mommy it's up to her to decide when I am diapered. And when I'm diapered, then I have to be her good boy and do what she wants or else. When I'm diapered I am no longer in control and I don't make the decisions. She does. Consequently I find myself wearing diapers more and more, not because I want to, but because she loves the control it gives her. What do your mommies enjoy?

Sounds like you have worked out a mutually satisfying, healthy, fun relationship and you are enjoying your roles. Nothing wrong with that. Have you both found an honest answer to the question of why your guy wears diapers should someone notice and ask? Most people won't notice, but it is good to have answer ready to avoid an awkward, embarrasing scene. And it needs to be the same answer so you are both saying the same thing. Instead of inventing something up, I suggest an honest one. Something short, simple and natural like. "It's okay he needs them." Or for him. "I need them okay." Everyone will assume he needs them for medical reasons, but you are being honest because he needs them for emotional reasons. Once you have a good answer ready and you are both comfortable with it, then going out in diapers no longer becomes a big deal, even if they are a bit bulky. Later on, once people are aware of it and the subject comes up in conversation you can be natural about it. You can say, "You know, he's become so dependent on his diapers. I'd hate to think of the embarrasing accidents he would have without them. So I don't mind the extra washing. It saves money. And I kinda enjoy taking care of his diaper needs. Brings back good memories for me. hahaha. And he's so sensitive and does a great job of doing what I want as well. We have a great relationship...." Have you both agreed on his emotional age when he's wearing diapers? Is he an emotional 27 yr old DL - his adult self? Or is he a 7 yr old (or younger?) on the inside who needs his mommy? What behaviors does he exhibit that expresses his emotional age? When you are at home does he speak like a little kid? Eat and drink like a kid? Play his appropriate age with toys and the TV he watches? Does he do age appropriate chores around the house? What do you do to reinforce his emotional age? Do you always speak to him at his age level? Do you prepare his food and drink with his age in mind? Do you put out the clothes he has to wear each day? Does he have to ask you nicely for a diaper change or to go potty (#2), or does he have to keep quiet and wait for you to come check and change him when you are ready?