After my wife passed away in 2012, I came out to all of my friends and family. My life became an open book to all of them. I couldn't hide all of my stuff and I didn't want to. My wife and I were very happy living the Mommy/Boy dynamic and balanced it well with our vanilla life. But, most of them would be helping me to move or just spending time at my house during that transition. I figured it was just easier to come out to the whole group at once. Out of about 10 people, not one of them even batted an eye. There were a few questions but I talked to them and let them know what being an AB/DL was all about. I also let them know that I had no desire to change this part of me, it's who I am and who I intend to be. It is what makes me happy, and I believe to this day that my wife would want me to be happy above everything else. And yes i feel free.
I have since met a wonderful new woman who loves me with all of her heart and I have fallen in love with her as well. And I would never hide this part of myself from her. That would essentially be lying to her, and keeping a part of myself from her. She has become my Mommy and we are living a very happy life together.
I cannot speak for anyone else but I have found great solace in being open with those close to me. As for someone else finding out, what are you gonna do? Tell my Mom? Go ahead...I dare ya.