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[diaperguy85]

first some background: my lovely girlfriend and i met on an online dating site, chatted for a bit, met up finally, then began dating and havent looked back for the last 8 months. we love each other an awful lot, and both of us had lousy relationships before we found us. there isnt much we dont agree on, and we share more interests than anyone else i know. she's really open-minded, and we've shared some secrets and histories, as well as explored some sexual stuff together.

anyways, she was over the other day, and she offered to help clean my room and straighten things up a bit (my room REALLY needed it!). we started one night and just did a small corner and some of the top of my desk. we stopped before too long and headed downstairs to watch tv, her saying she'll do some more cleaning the next day when i was at work. i told her i'd prefer to help too, but i let her and tell her dont go too crazy with it, and she knew i cleaned my closets earlier in the week (where my meager stash is hidden). i go to work, she does some cleaning, and she textes me a bit near the end of my work day about her progess. im a bit concerned about her finding anything, but i dont think too much of it. work day ends, i come home, she's waiting for me at home with a snack (told you she's awesome lol). i, of course, want to see my room, so we head up and my room looks great! boxes are moved around, shelves are organized and everything else.of course, she didnt throw anything out, and moved much of what i have to go through into a stack/pile in the corner. then i noticed my diaper bag/pillow case in the pile!

i dont say anything about it, and it turns out that she did clean my closet, and organized that, too! good thing: it looks awesome. bad news: she had to move my diaper bag thingee, plus two little boxes with more diapers in them. anyway, the day goes on, nothing is said about the possible find until we're outside grilling up dinner. she mentions that she wasnt shocked at anything she found in the closet. i did have a school binder with some porn and such in it, and i mentioned that, and we laughed about it and was actually expecting to find some porn somewhere lol. nothing else was mentioned for the rest of the night. i get up this morning, get going for work, notice my diaper bag in the pile still, and go to work (she has work a few hours after me). i go to work, she leaves shortly after me, work day for me as usual, nothing special at work, and she goes to work and then her home. i get home, and i want to start going through the stack of stuff and start putting things away. so i go to my room, and i notice the bag is moved and empty!! i start to freak a bit, looking through the pile, consider going outside to the trash can to look, and then i look in the closet, and the diaper bag is placed on top of my currently open diaper box. plus my other box is placed in there too. also, im not entirely too sure, but i think one or two diapers were missing, but i really dont know and havent counted them, ever. they just seemed a bit looser than before. maybe just wishful thinking

so obviously she knows!! but she hasnt said anything to me yet about it. so either she doesnt want to talk about it, or is waiting for me to say something first. either way, we had a lovely snuggle night and seemed extra snuggley, in hindsight lol. other info, she loves anything eeyore, disney movies, stuffed animals, and owns a pair of footie pajamas lol. now i know those dont really mean much, but i dont know just yet. i know i wanted to tell her at some point soon, but it seemed to have happened on its own lol.

any input or advice? anything at all? comments? congrats? words of warning and/or wisdom?

[Bettypooh]

At this point, either wait it out or when the time is right ease into the subject in conversation She must know and she hasn't ran away so unless you do something to change it, this looks like a really good beginning which I hope ends with a "happily ever after"

Bettypooh

[darkravendl]

Its also possible that she might think that you have a health problem. Unless you had "baby" items in your storage bag. I hope all goes well!

[Bettypooh]

I have a health problem- a mental one! Maybe she does think this, and to not get around to discussing it wouldn't be very fair to her But then again she can bring the subject up if she's curious about it and at some point she probably will Not knowing her I can't say who should open the subject up first, only that is is almost certain to happen if the relationship continues so you need to think that through and act accordingly With that thinking and bit of luck there may be bliss hiding just behind the curtain of tomorrow and that's as good as life gets It does seem that her mind is open enough and her heart good enough to give this a very good chance of being a non-issue or even better I am certainly jealous and would love to be in that situation myself, for any chance is better than none and since I have nobody my chance is currently none. Make the best of it!

Bettypooh

[Repaid1]

I also am curious to know exactly what you have in your stash? I mean a bambino teddies or something or just like depends or something plain jane. Anything really to out you as a true DL?. In any instance, I would just bite the bullet and wear one. Let her discover that you are wearing it and have her take it from there. You seem to already know that she probably knows you have them. If you wear one and she does know it at some point through the day/night, and she fails to bring it up she is probably leaning toward the "need" side. If she on the other hand goes for the sexual side, well then BINGO!

Either way it's out there and you can discuss it from there. Best of luck. My new girlfriend knows, and she is fine with it. Oh the joy of having someone diaper you!

[diaperguy85]

thanks bettypooh, i hope it ends with a "happily ever after", too. and best of luck with you with finding someone
no, she knows i dont have those kinds of mental issues lol or any physical issues either.

repaid1 - no baby stuff, just plain white/whatever color diapers lol. tenas, plain bambinos, a molicare or three and some plastic pants. the only thing non-DL i have interest in is getting a few plain onsies or footie pjs. no paci's, frilly stuff, bottles or anything else, i have no interest in those. of course if my g/f got into that stuff, i'd change my mind im not sure just wearing one and her finding it is the best way. i did want to talk to her about my diapers sooner or later (sooner than i thought, apparently lol). my wearing is mostly for my relaxing, mental unwinding, and such. with some sexual stuff in there too if she does get into diapers like that, that would be awesome!! someone to relax with in diapers! ...and...other..fun stuff too

we'll just see what happens.... ::fingers crossed::

[cbabab]

I think the door is open, she has spent the last 8 months with you. Her comment about nothing surprising her in your closet was probably her subtle way of cracking the door open to the subject. Then her putting it back in your closet opened was another push to completely open the door. You should plan a nice dinner at home and explain to her about the di après and see how she feels. If she hasn't run away she seems very much open or at least accepting of it. If she needs to chat with someone my wife is sitting next to me saying she could send her any questions. My wife's name is Kbababwife on here. Good luck.

[diaperguy85]

funny little thing happened sunday (ha-ha): diapered up saturday night (always sleep better diapered), got up late sunday morning, wet, and went back to dozing in bed. then about 11-ish, my door opens. not an odd thing, considering i still live at home and mom pokes in to rouse me out of bed from time to time. turns out to the the g/f!! and im laying there in bed in a very wet diaper!! and my g/f is in the door way and coming to snuggle!! apparently she got out of work early and popped by for a surprise visit(something she does fairly often)! she shuts the door behind her, and climbs in bed, and we start snuggling, and some little chit chat. how was work? rough weekend? etc etc. then i turn the convo to my closet. turns out the things she said she wasnt shocked by finding was the porn binder, and some old stuffed animal stuff (not related to anything). i describe my diaper bag/pillow case to her and she claimed she didnt remember any such item like it. she says that she was in a blind cleaning frenzy and not much registered to her. now whether i believe her or not, is up for debate, but either way, i wussed out and didnt mention any more. i got out of it easily since i had laundry in the dryer that i sent her down to get while i got out of the diaper and hopped in the shower.

BUT!! i had a very wonderful snuggle time with my lovey, while diapered!

thanks, cbabab, if/when it gets time to spill the beans, i just may point my girl your girl's direction. and for all i know, she did some research since the cleaning and is on here somewhere already! let me know if anyone new contacts your wife lol

so anyway, she may/may not know, and i dont know for sure. kinda driving me nuts. she may know, but be protecting me from mortifying embarrassment or something, or truely doesnt know. either way, she'll know sooner or later, if she doesnt already

[diaperguy85]

and now people start wondering if this really happened or am i fueling some fantasy of mine and making any/all of this up

well, it did happen! hard to believe, yes. i dont think coming out to her about diapers while wearing a really wet diaper was the best option that day. perhaps no diaper and coming out would be better, and then take it from there if its a positive reaction

[durdensmayhem]

So, did you finally tell her? lol

[diaperguy85]

lol unfortunately not yet. timing hasnt been right, and also i just wussed out ::shrugs::
but i do feel that it'll be relatively soon, since we're seriously considering getting a house and moving in together within the next several months. she's pretty open-minded and recently i weedled a fetish out of her (bdsm, not heavy, just some binding and a bit of pain), so i dont feel diapers are a big leap. but she did say early on that she isnt at all into watersports (and neither am i), so we'll see. i still dont expect a negative reaction, but who knows

[Honu]

I think you are on the right track - having a talk where you exchange kinks. You can start by asking more about her interest in BDSM, what's good, what's not, etc. After a bit of that, she should be in the mood to talk about what you like and be open to it. Caring about her kink, not judging it and wanting to make her happy is a good way to elicit the desires in her. Also, the correct response to someone who has bared their soul to you is to bare your soul to them.

BTW, you're getting close to the limit of when this baring your soul and when it's been holding a secret way too long.

Good Luck!

[diaperguy85]

!!!UPDATE!!!

so g/f came down last night, didnt expect her to with her work schedual, but another rough day brought her down. she came by around 11ish, and we snuggled on the couch watching tv and her venting about her lousy day. we went up to bed at about 12, and just layed in bed snuggling and chatting about work, our future together, a house we're looking at looking at, etc etc. then the conversation turned towards a sexual nature. i brought up that i forgot to get rope for her and she laughed. then i asked what else she liked about the bdsm scene, and other kinks and interests she has. then the big question came from her "so what about you?"

so i figure - now or never. i name a few things that she knows of already, one or two she may or may not have, and then the big one. i tell her that i like diapers, and she came across them in her cleaning the other day, which she actually does remember lol. i go on telling her about it, a bit on why i like it, what i do and dont do with them, the comfort aspect, a bit of the community, AB's vs DL's vs sissies vs mommy/daddy/sitters, and all of this she seems fairly interested with! i dont think she was about to run over to the closet and get a pair of diapers for us, but she seemed interested lol. then i ask to her what she thinks of all this. she tightens her hug on me and goes "im ok with it. whatever makes you happy ::kiss::"

i also mentioned to her that i would like her to wear too one day, but also that im not going to make her to anything she isnt comfortable with. as well as im not expecting her to change me at all. i would also introduce her to it all slowly, and not just greet her one day with a huge, sodden diaper on.

so yay for me!!

[DailyDi]

grats!

[McDonLee]

Congrats

[Bettypooh]

Definitely a big YAAAAY for you and for your approach- while you can't make anyone understand things, you van choose how you'll approach the matter and you did that well Glad it worked out and it gives the lonely ones here hope that maybe someday we'llm find that special someone too

Bettypooh

[diaperguy85]

thanks all for your support and cheering! lol sorry if i keep going on about this, but im just excited!!!

interesting thing too, is that she called my fetish a "quirk", and then said she loves me for me, including all my quirks.

i forgot to mention, too, i had to run out last night unexpectedly so i couldnt add this in, i told her that i could see her one day in pig-tails, footie pj's (which she already has a pair of!), snuggling up with a stuffed eeyore and a padded tushie watching winnie the pooh lol to which she laughed and said "doesnt sound too bad to me". she didnt just flat out denounce that she would never-ever wear diapers, but like i said, im not going to force her to do anything she doesnt want to do. but it gives me hope that one day we can have a diapered day together.

which reminds me, she actually brought this up: earlier in the day we were texting, and we do the slightly over-the-top/nausea-inducing couples thing of texting actions like ::kisses:: and ::snuggles:: and so on. the snippit of the convo went like this (skip ahead if you already ate lol):

her- ::snuggles::
me- ::snuggles tight::
her- never let go
me- well i'll have to pee sooner or later
her- fine lol just come back
me- of course i will lol

and she brought it up saying "now you have no excuse not to snuggle all day!" i mentioned that in order for us to snuggle all day she would have to wear one too, and there would be no stopping the endless snuggles lol. she laughed, kinda shrugged and said.... well, i forget what she said exactly, but it was a positive thing along the lines of "one day" or something like that lol

also i added that her bdsm fetish and my diaper fetish can intertwine, and there's a forum page on here about that. so she might become a member to here one day soon too!

bettypooh - i know you'll find your special someone who will love you for you ever try one of the diaper-dating sites? im sure there are also sites for incontinent people too

[luv2beSpanked]

I was About to say after reading all that just come out and tell her lol. But if you look at it, if she is into BDSM and loves to be tied up, if you keep her tied up for a long time a diaper would be a good thing concidering that there has to be some bathroom breaks in there somewhere!

[diaperguy85]

that might be the plan one day
i told here about that and she got rather intrigued, so we'll see

everything has a proper time and place, spanks, i just needed to find the right time to tell her

[diaperguy85]

UPDATE

 

so much has happened since september. nothing too earth-shattering, but some note-worthy things going on. since then, she has actually be encouraging me to wear on the days that i usually wear the most! which is awesome! lol we have some code words we use for my diapers. words are "wearing", "nappie" and the most used and loved by her, "padded" or "padding" lol. when used in conversation: "i thought you would be padded tonight". also she's taken to calling me her "padded teddy bear" in private lol

 

perhaps the biggest thing: we are closer to getting a house. we found a fixer-upper in good condition on 4 acres (which we just LOVE having the land!!) not too far from where i live now, and we are going through the usual questions and actions before we get a going on the next bit of it. we're working on her credit score, loans, loan choices, do we go with a 203(k) or dont we, will the numbers add up, can we afford this, i hope we can afford this, renovations we want, renovations we need, etc etc etc, lots and lots and lots of fun lol

of course, any input/words of wisdom from all here are welcomed and encouraged

 

so of course, in getting a house of our own, we would settle into doing things that our families probably wouldnt agree with us doing; she says strutting around in a t-shirt and perhaps undies (if that), nude backyard fun (it's secluded enough we wouldnt worry too much lol), buying more toys, and such. i say pants-less saturdays, bathrobe lounge days, toys of my own, anytime sexy time, and of course diapered lounging after work, weekends, etc etc. everything said, of course, we agree with and look forward to. especially considering those are our own special ways that we relax, unwind and de-stress after a day at the grind.

 

in the past few weeks/month or so, after my g/f told me she doesnt mind me at all diapered and myself trying to shake the cobwebs of hiding this for the last 10 years from everyone, i've been more open talking about diapers with her, and also just venting my amazement about this whole thing here lol. just talking about things like "friday will be a nappy night" and simple things like that. talking about the house and coming home to change into a fresh diaper after a long day to unwind. im not too sure what i said exactly, but i mentioned my diaper time in the house, and she said back to me "i might join you for that". which caught me a bit off guard, but made me happy that she was willing to explore this further. i joked back to her "so im bringing you over to the padded side of life now?", and her reply "i'll try anything once! "

 

other item to share, early on after september, my g/f did some research of her own into this wide wide world of diapers and found out she joined a forum site!! not this one, unfortunately, but another one. im trying to sway her to join this one, and i'll let you all now how that goes lol. anyway, she joined up, lurked around, looking at threads and topics, gathering info, and posting a bit too, from what i heard. how much more she does on that site, i have no idea, but im glad she took it upon herself to look into it

 

and thats about it, just wanted to post an update if anyone was curious