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[Forced2wet]

Over the past few nights I've been struggling to sleep due to the urge of wanting to wear and not being able to.

I handed the power to my 'new to this' partner (I prefer to be told to wear) of when I wear my nappies and plastic pants and she seems to not be bothering with it recently. I do live with her and her two young children so I understand that she would nt be comfortable with me wearing whilst they are about (it's been half term school holidays in GB) but I only wear overnight and in the comfort of our bedroom.
I have considered dressing myself after she has fallen to sleep but I not only worry about waking her up when I open the locked case under our bed that contains my supplies but also how it would look in the morning when she realises that I wore without her.

There can't be a worse feeling in the world, wanting to wear and wet and not being able to. (It don't help reading all the wonderful posts and tales on this board either lol)

[Infernus]

I go through phases of this and i know what you mean, you dont want to force the issue on them because you are happy to be accepted but at the same time you do want to play every now and again.

I try and control my urges every now and again, she is into some kinky things that im not so much into but i love to do them because of how turned on she gets, and it also means that she does them for me.

Its deffinatly a bit of give and take, sometimes if its been a few weeks i start to drop subtle hints .

I become really submissive when nappies are involved (usually im not) and prefer to be told what to do, which is hard because she isnt at all dom.

[poopy_dipes]

I can relate to this.

My wife says she doesn't care when I wear my diapers. Every time I do wear them, she's just fine with it. But even after 25 years I STILL feel self conscious about it. This is probably because--prior to her--my "overdoing" my diaper wearing was a major factor in my breaking up with my previous "serious" girlfriend and so, in the back of my head, I fear that it may happen again (I'm not worried about breaking up, rather that if I do it too much she may no longer approve as much).

Before we had kids, she would often tell me "I think you need to be in your DIAPERS." I absolutely loved this but took it for granted. Often she'd want me in them and I'd say "no I'm not really in the mood". Now, she no longer does this and I SO MUCH wish that she would.

I think she just believes that this is not necessary, that I can go wear them if I want to. But, like the rest of you, I love the "she's ordering me to do it and I must obey and be submissive" aspect of it.

Next time I'm talking with her in private I think I'll bring this up again. I'll let you all know how it goes.

[Honeywell6180]

I recommend that you go see a doctor. There is a good possibility that he may prescribe adult diapers, if you need the tactile feel and security in order to sleep restfully. Your girlfriend shouldn't be in control of your medical needs. It is YOUR equipment, and it's YOU who must decide which components work best in a given situation.

[Forced2wet]

Thanks for your replies, Infernus and Poopy D's I'm sort of glad it's not just a situation I find myself in but obviously we'd all be happier if things changed slightly for the better

Honeywell, it's not a medical thing, most of the time although I don't need a lot of sleep (compared to my partner) I can drop off with very little problem. It's only just on the odd occasions after it's been a while (weeks) since I last wore and wet.

What I also should point out is that although this is a new relationship my current G/F is my soul mate who I love with all my heart and wish to spend the rest of my life with. Our personal time in the bedroom is the best ever and I enjoy every moment with her no matter what we are doing. And I'm so grateful that she seems to accept my DL side this soon in our partnership. Perhaps I need to learn patience and hope that has time goes on things 'improve'

[xtrabulk]

Dude. Love the post. You are me. I think...
When I don't wear and WET, for a while, I can't sleep and get cranky. In fact, this is happening right now, with my parents here. I'm wearing now - I was up late - but if my lovely wife would've MADE mw wear, I'd still be asleep instead of up stressing.
Hang tight(ly diapered)!
x

[poopy_dipes]

My wife has gotten to the point where she is totally casual and thinks nothing about me wearing my diapers. This is both a dream come true and somewhat of a problem.

It's a dream come true because I can sleep in them anytime I want, and if the kids aren't here I can wear them all day and she doesn't care. She's totally used to it, knows it's something I love and do, and generally pays no attention to it anymore.

But, it's a problem in that--because she thinks nothing of it--she doesn't seem to realize how much I like for HER to MAKE me do it. It's like "well I don't need to make you, you can do it whenever you want." She totally misses out on the "domination" aspects of it.

Don't get me wrong, I have it made and I'm NOT complaining. But I would like for her to get more into the "strict mommy" role sometimes...

[whisko]

But I would like for her to get more into the "strict mommy" role sometimes...

oh wow, tell her! she might be missing having some control over that thing you do for yourself.

my wife tolerates my diaper thing pretty good too, but wishes i'd be more aggressive in bed. pain distracts me, and it's not something i seek, but she really enjoys it so i try to accommodate :-) she wishes she could do more for me, but i don't have any requests. is your wife asking you for anything?

[poopy_dipes]

Oh I have told her, and I think she gets it. I think it's just a matter of us having some time (when the kids are gone) for me to get her into the "spirit" and do it. Also, she's had a few health issues lately but when she feels better and we have some time, I will definitely try it again...!

[Forced2wet]

Nice thread bump

Interestingly, almost 8 months down the line from my original post I still get the same "problem'
Still deeply in love with my OH, and she has helped me further with my DL and slight AB 'thing' (going as far as buying me related Xmas gifts), but I still get the same 'wanting to' feelings.

Whilst her children's well being will/should always come first for her, I have begun to realise that it'll be years and years before I can be truly happy.

[Jilly Poo]

Forced, I feel your pain too.  I've been missing wearing diapers as well to the point it disturbs my sleep.  When it has been too long, I often end up having diaper related dreams for several days in a row until I finally break and just diaper myself.

 

I asked my husband years ago to force me to wear and in the beginning he was okay with it.  He even initiated a few romantic interludes by diapering me.  After a while, he kind of gave up on the idea of doing it and our sex life became very vanilla again  

 

I still want him to force me into diapers but have come to understand that he just doesn't "GET IT."  I end up just wearing my diapers during the day when I am home alone or to bed at night when he is out of town on business (always fearing that one of my kids will come into my room and discover my secret)  

 

There is really nothing like giving up control to someone else and having them either force you into them or control when you can wear but if she doesn't know it is important to you, how can she fill your desires?  How about telling her what you want/need or simply slip a diaper (and what ever else you use) under her pillow before bedtime.  At very least, if you are afraid of waking her by pulling out your supply from under the bed in the middle of the night, why not sneak one out before bed time and put it somewhere in the house that you can access later without disturbing anyone.

 

I know it has been 6 months since you started this thread and I hope things have picked up for you.  Good Luck!

[Forced2wet]

Thanks for the reply Jilly, my partner does know that I like to be told when to wear. But it's obviously not something she thinks about often. Perhaps like your husband, she does nt 'get it'

The issue of having her young children in the house is I suspect the true reason.

It's good that you can find the time to diaper yourself, something that I don't have the opportunity to do very often. But when I do put myself in a M4 and plastic pants it just does nt feel the same and makes me feel like I'm being 'untrue' to the love of my life.

How does your husband feel about you doing your wearing and wetting on your own? Or do you not tell him?