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[square_duck]

Harmless fun, besides it feels real good!

^ THIS! ^

[Daddy Fred]

Many times I've answered this type of question, "why am I gay" "why do I have to wear women's clothes when I'm a man" "why do I like to mess myself/wear a nappydiaper etc. etc. etc".

I just stopped bothering about it. No-one really wants to know. No-one is really interested in the roots of his/her fetish/orientation. People don't want to think, they want FUN! Some people are too scared to learn the truth about themselves -- it would be too disturbing for them. Others see their fetish as unimportant, a nuisance even, not to be treated seriously.

Daddy Fred.

[Goden]

No-one really wants to know. No-one is really interested in the roots of his/her fetish/orientation

I do.


I find looking into the psychology behind sexuality to be fascinating.

[tcc]

Thread after thread after thread screams the question, "Why?", to so many aspects of us, what makes us us, and our lives.
I, like Goden, find the whole aspect of diaper fetishism(or, infantilism, as it's "classified", but call it what you will...) fascinating, and love to read the threads about what is going on in the heads of the members here.
Given that I'm nearly 45 years into my diaper fetishism, and came to that realization - that I'm a DL, with little interest in the AB world or baby things - I no longer waste time wondering why I do what I do, why I enjoy what I enjoy and why I have no desire to purge this "abnormality" (says who, and based upon what criteria?).
Diapers are absorbent underwear. Diapers are a legitimate product with a legitimate purpose. Diapers are made for use by all ages of human beings and for all sizes, and for all variety of needs for absorbent underwear. Diapers are neither illegal, immoral or fattening.
We, in the AB/DL community spend more time in guilt, self-loathing and "feeding quarters into the ass kicking machine" than trying to figure out how to accept ourselves for who we are, how we are and how we can best integrate the us we are into our life and interaction(s) with other people. It's OUR thing. If others will not accept it, or US, for being as we are, then they really are not worth our time. And, unless we are part of the fringe that has that need to lie about being mentally ill and incon, trying to hire an unsuspecting person to "change our diaper" - which can get you arrested and name and face published in the newspaper - or decide we just can't live unless we head out to the Seven Eleven for a Slurpee, dressed in just diapers, a t-shirt and sandals - which will also get a person arrested for nothing illegal, but maybe get an assisted trip for psychiatric evaluation somewhere - what we do discreetly or in private is nobody else's business.
So, if we can accept ourselves for who we are, how we are and what we are into, what does it matter WHY we do what we do? People do all kinds of things that seem to vary from "the norm". What WE do is just one more thing on that long list of quirks that human beings have. What was the trigger? A person may never find out. Or, they may. Unless you are intent upon purging that desire - and some shrinks will tell you you can only replace it with some other, maybe more well-accepted "obsession" - it doesn't matter why your switch is tripped.
However, only the individual can choose to stop obsessing over their obsession, as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else.
The answer can be as simple as "Because!" or a person can spend a lifetime never finding a definitive answer

[diaperbrownie]

Diapers are made for use by all ages of human beings and for all sizes, and for all variety of needs for absorbent underwear. Diapers are neither illegal, immoral or fattening.

Fattening? What, do you eat your diapers? I didn't know "fattening" was ever a discussed topic about diapers.

[tcc]

Fattening? What, do you eat your diapers? I didn't know "fattening" was ever a discussed topic about diapers.

And, you, Troll, missed the point as only YOU could.... If it was an attempt to be funny, you aren't.

[diaperbrownie]

And, you, Troll, missed the point as only YOU could.... If it was an attempt to be funny, you aren't.

Look I wasn't trying to be funny. I am asking a serious question what does it mean for a diaper to be fattening? I have never heard that term before in relation to diapers. Does it mean they make you look fat? Or make you feel fat? Or does it have something to do with bulk? I just asked a question don't call me a troll.

[Plasticbutt]

I just stopped bothering about it. No-one really wants to know. No-one is really interested in the roots of his/her fetish/orientation. People don't want to think, they want FUN! Some people are too scared to learn the truth about themselves -- it would be too disturbing for them. Others see their fetish as unimportant, a nuisance even, not to be treated seriously.

It might disturb some people to know the "why"s of their fetish(es), but I would love to know why I do what I do -- not just diaper/pants pooping, but also the other things I'm into. As fun as my fetishes are, it would be great for me to have more insight as to why I find them such fun and why they turn me on.

[dappydiaper]

It might disturb some people to know the "why"s of their fetish(es), but I would love to know why I do what I do -- not just diaper/pants pooping, but also the other things I'm into. As fun as my fetishes are, it would be great for me to have more insight as to why I find them such fun and why they turn me on.

bingo

[Daddy Fred]

Well, I've wondered about this one -- why we like to mess ourselves. The feeling is very erotic and sexual, both genders seem to like it. It seems to be very much a "feeling" thing, we like the feeling of full pants, undies, nappydiapers. And there is a huge concentration of nerve-endings around your bum area, especially close to the hole itself. That's only matched in willie. lips, and fingers.
A lot of people here think it's to do with something about when you were a baby, and first impressions being lasting impressions. When you're only one or two, life must be all about feeding, peeing, pooping and sleeping; maybe a bit of playing and experimenting too.
I think that's all it is really, because that inner child-we-were is still there and wants expression of some sort. And this is the sort. Messing yourself, enjoying the feeling.
Daddy Fred.
p.s. Oh, and getting your own back for all that inconvenient potty-training when all you wanted to do was mess yourself and carry on playing.

[diaperbrownie]

Can someone please tell me still what it means for a diaper to be "fattening"? It's been on my mind, and I have no clue what it meaans.

[Diapered Jason]

Can someone please tell me still what it means for a diaper to be "fattening"? It's been on my mind, and I have no clue what it meaans.

Slaps face.

Seriously though, from my perspective of it being a sexual turn-on, I know wetting my diaper came first, which felt great. It was only a natural evolution to the messing of the diaper then. I guess it was out of curiosity that I tried messing diapers. Such was the case with many of my kinks. I am almost positive that the internet helped generate some of that curiosity, hehe.

I'm certain it had nothing to do with my inner-child. Wait a minute, I don't even have an inner-child.

[tcc]

Well, I've wondered about this one -- why we like to mess ourselves. The feeling is very erotic and sexual, both genders seem to like it. It seems to be very much a "feeling" thing, we like the feeling of full pants, undies, nappydiapers. And there is a huge concentration of nerve-endings around your bum area, especially close to the hole itself. That's only matched in willie. lips, and fingers.
A lot of people here think it's to do with something about when you were a baby, and first impressions being lasting impressions. When you're only one or two, life must be all about feeding, peeing, pooping and sleeping; maybe a bit of playing and experimenting too.
I think that's all it is really, because that inner child-we-were is still there and wants expression of some sort. And this is the sort. Messing yourself, enjoying the feeling.
Daddy Fred.
p.s. Oh, and getting your own back for all that inconvenient potty-training when all you wanted to do was mess yourself and carry on playing.

Dude -
I think you have nailed it on the head, for a great many of us, and said it very well. Thanks for your comments!

[curiositykilledthecat]

********SARCASM/JOKE ALERT*********

I'd blame it on being born white, however I know a couple African-American friends who are into the lifestyle and the last thing I want to do is insult them by calling them white.


*******END OF ALERT****

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As for my two cents, just be who you are, accept you're weird and embrace the fact that there is no such thing as normal. At the end of the day I sort of know where the AB tendencies come from, though I don't have all the answers there and I accept the DL side as a misfiring in my developmental conscious that has created this affinity for diapers. It doesn't impede my life so I enjoy it in moderation like I would a fine wine.

[BabyJune]

It is about the need to feel taken care of. Subconsciously we "remember" soiling ourselves as a baby and a grownup always took care of our needs. As adults, we need some time when our worries disappear, we feel taken care of, and we have no worries. Diapers and babyhood are associated with those feelings, so we regress to a time when all was good. Make sense?

[Goden]

It is about the need to feel taken care of. Subconsciously we "remember" soiling ourselves as a baby and a grownup always took care of our needs. As adults, we need some time when our worries disappear, we feel taken care of, and we have no worries. Diapers and babyhood are associated with those feelings, so we regress to a time when all was good. Make sense?

I always thought it was linked to This

Basically, complications in potty-training disrupts sexual development causing one to become "stuck". That article doesn't do it justice, there is more to it than that though.