I have occasional IBS-D, so I already deal with incredibly messy diapers on my own. I'm not exactly opposed to changing anyone else, but I'd prefer to avoid it all in the first place.
I've long thought we need a separate term for the kink or fetish aspect of diapers. Not just AB or DL, but DiaperSexual or SexualDiapers. Still very much part of the overall abdl community, but much more clear for that particular aspect.
It's important to note just how much everyone else is caught up in their own lives (and phones). People don't normally go around staring at other people's crotches. And if they are, the problem is all on them.
It seems obvious to us when were diapered because we're nervous and super aware of them. We see every bulge and hear every crinkle, but others just don't. And as mentioned, the more we're in public while diapered the easier it gets. Just remember, there's absolitely nothing illegal or immoral with wearing a diaper, no matter our reason for it.