New mammy needing help Posted October 17, 2014 Share Posted October 17, 2014 Hi. Im new to this and full of questions. My boyfriend is a abdl. He says hes more leaning towards ab. Weve had our problems and iv been on and of with doing it. At first we tried it and he got really gready. He wanted to try everything all at once. I did it for him. I even went into shop and payed for nappys for him. That was entertaining. Lol the thing is i got really left out and ended up resenting him for it. Our sex life took a hit and i didnt want to do it any more. He never pressured me to do it again. But went online and told me he did. That killed me. All i could think of was he dosnt find me attactive. Basically we nearly broke up. But now im trying to understand. Iv started doing the mammy side for him but no nappys yet. Ill email him talk to him in caring voice and play. He seems to love it and is getting really turned on by me now. Sex is way better as i let him call me mammy but i still want some help on what to say and do. Can any one help me? Xx Link to comment
WakkoWannaBe Posted October 17, 2014 Share Posted October 17, 2014 Hmm. Well first and foremost: BIG FAT GIANT KUDOS TO YOU for caring enough about him to research and find this site and post about it. 1 Link to comment
Baby Brian Posted October 17, 2014 Share Posted October 17, 2014 He may have originally though you were completely accepting of his AB play and diapers too, instead of just experimenting. Now that you have pushed much of it off, it sounds like he has gone online to fill that gap. I don't condone what he did (especially behind your back), but you do need to at least realize that what he wants is most likely a deeply ingrained part of who he is. I don't think you should just dump him, but I do think the two of you need to talk about it- including your needs too. Both of you need to come to an understanding of each other's needs, and work out some sort of compromise. 1 Link to comment
Fulldiaper Posted October 17, 2014 Share Posted October 17, 2014 Many, not all adult babies are selfish and the caregiver is like a battery. If not recharged, they burn out and die. Adult baby caregivers need to insure it's a give and take. We all have needs, make sure that your needs emotionally, physically and spiritually needs are met in the duties of diapering and babying their charge. Use a reward program, for every time your needs are met, you meet one or more, your choice needs. Example, orgasm for orgasm...diaper change for maybe some serious cuddle time and fooling around. Just suggestions. Link to comment
New mammy needing help Posted October 18, 2014 Author Share Posted October 18, 2014 Thanku all for your support. This is really hard. I recently looked on his fetlife profile and found out he posted sayn he wanted to meet a mammy or sister. This was at the very begining of our relationship. I love him n im so hurt. I cant stop cryn. He sed hed neva of met up with any one but im worried he might be speeking to them. I feel like my heart has been ripped out. Im 15 weeks pregnant to him. I have a son who adores him. I dnt no what to do Link to comment
New mammy needing help Posted October 18, 2014 Author Share Posted October 18, 2014 He sed he wasnt inlove with me at the begining. Which i understand. It takes time. But it still ripps me in to. Hes begging me not to break up with him. I dnt wnt to. But how can i trust him. Link to comment
WakkoWannaBe Posted October 18, 2014 Share Posted October 18, 2014 Well this took a dark turn. I didn't realize you were so involved with him. How long you two have been going out? Link to comment
New mammy needing help Posted October 18, 2014 Author Share Posted October 18, 2014 If i do it for him do u think hed still go online. Hes promised he wnt n it was a big mistake. If im doing it he wnt look for someone else Link to comment
WakkoWannaBe Posted October 18, 2014 Share Posted October 18, 2014 I personally believe that if you did it for him, AND if he was satisfied with the ABDL stuff that you were doing for him, then he wouldn't go online, but that if you were doing it from him, and he wanted more or wasn't satisfied, then he might go online. Link to comment
Snugglebear Posted October 18, 2014 Share Posted October 18, 2014 Not having heard both sides it is hard to say but it certainly sounds to me like he is a most forcing you to do things for him through psycological and emotional blackmail. I just sounds like even if you do things he is always going to want more. Trust to me is critical and once broken it's very hard to ever truly restore. I personally would never be able to trust someone who lied to me like that but ultimately the choice is up to you. Link to comment
New mammy needing help Posted October 19, 2014 Author Share Posted October 19, 2014 Im gunna try. Iv told him how i feel n weve had a good talk. He wnt do out behind my bk he swears. I hope we can get threw this. If hes wants to try sumat he will tell me. I dnt mind doing it tbf. I even enjoy it sometimes. He sed he wnt get greedy. Thankyou everyone for ur comments. I just hope im not a being a mug. Usually im nt the type of person to fgive someone f this but iv neva loved someone like this. Link to comment
WakkoWannaBe Posted October 19, 2014 Share Posted October 19, 2014 I'm glad that you came to a resolution! Best of luck in moving forward! Link to comment
New mammy needing help Posted October 19, 2014 Author Share Posted October 19, 2014 Thanku Link to comment
Fulldiaper Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 Keep him on short leash and if strays, either tighten leash or cut him loose. Link to comment
MegatronAB Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 We are here for you mammy . We are good people Link to comment
New mammy needing help Posted October 20, 2014 Author Share Posted October 20, 2014 Exactly. Thankyou all so much. Fingers crossed xx Link to comment
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