Haven't messaged for ages, but...
As the person who was highlighted as the example of negativity on a thread they started, thought I'd chip in.
Seems weird that was a couple of years ago, since then I've gone from a repressed DL, to occasional wearer to 24/7.
As regards public messsing, I don't want to ever make a 'scene', or stink anyone out, but if I mess, I mess. Took a lot of time to get to that point, but I'm so happy with it now!