New Mommy and having some troubles

[MsPuffin]

Hi, I am a very new mommy. My boyfriend was afraid to be open with me for a while, but when he finally opened up, I was very accepting. I love him very much, and I enjoy the nurturing role that he desires (cuddle, changing etc). What I am having trouble with is the intimate side. He wants mommy/baby time to lead into intimate time. I want this for him; I want him to enjoy it. But I don’t find myself in an intimate mood when he is my baby. I know it’s selfish, but I want to enjoy intimate time as well. I find him more attractive when he is just his regular self. The man I know so well. I love the baby side too, but it is so new and different, I just don’t know how to feel that way intimately. For a long time I tried to make him happy and do what I thought he wanted, but lately he has been noticing that I’m not fully into it. He knows me very well. I guess my question is, how do I make this work for both of us?

[piggyinnappies]

First you are not selfish. You need to talk with your boyfriend and explain your feelings. I believe a healthy relationship is about communicating and compromise. Let him know what you would like.

[Repaid1]

I understand your concern, babies as a true young child, or adults acting as child are extremely selfish. I think perhaps he is just so happy that he has you and is taking your acceptance for granted way to soon. It is a hard road to find someone such as yourself, and as such many emotions were bottled up inside, and you seem to be getting the explosion from him. I know I myself have been guilty of this exact thing.

[SoakedinTexas]

You seem to have a handle on your feelings. You just need to talk to him just like you wrote out your feelings here. I think that it will open a good conversation and lead to a good conclusion for both of you.

[Fulldiaper]

I think the one thing that is missing from the previous posts is that for many AB/DL's it's an erotic experience and arousing for them; though not all If this is the case, he's looking for a climax or as it's called, making number three in his diaper. Many Mommies and Daddies when they're in the parental mode, sexual thoughts aren't in the forefront of their minds, but many times at diaper changes you'll encounter a vey stiff and hard situation that makes changing and fastening the diaper difficult. This is where the bABy can take the backseat and Mommy can become the lover and bABy their man. Or, you could diaper him and make him make number three in his diaper...but understand, many AB/DL's lose all desire for the diapers. This can be problematic for the Mommy wanting to keep bABy in diapers to meet her nurturing needs. This is where a dominating Mommy will take charge and be firm keeping bABy in their diapers. Sometimes bondage is necessary.

[MsPuffin]

Thank you all so very much for taking the time to respond with advice. I really liked the idea of giving his AB a separate name so they we can distinguish. We have been doing well with that. I think it allows me to still have the time I need with his adult side as well as satisfying his need for AB time. We have been talking much more openly and compromising. I'm really greatful for that and also for the tips and advice this website as provided me with. Thank you all.

[littleJaina]

Thank you all so very much for taking the time to respond with advice. I really liked the idea of giving his AB a separate name so they we can distinguish. We have been doing well with that. I think it allows me to still have the time I need with his adult side as well as satisfying his need for AB time. We have been talking much more openly and compromising. I'm really greatful for that and also for the tips and advice this website as provided me with. Thank you all.

[Miss_Cassie]

I use the name change with each of my children. On our first dates I symulate a birthing process. You get a name, gender, and age! I have one baby names Tommy, and another baby girl name Katie. (Both are males), I wish there was a better way for them to set up play dates but both babies love their mother too much to share. Lol

- All my children call me Miss. C

[mommyinneedofhelp]

im in a similar situation with my boyfriend. i tried acting more like an AB then a mommy when he gets into an intimate mood. so if your comfortable with acting more AB then mommy you can try that.