How do I propose to a close platonic friend to try being my daddy/caretaker?

[padded_husky]

So I have a very close friend that I'm in what I guess can be considered an open platonic relationship? We are friends and we share an intamit relationship where we do just about everything but the actual act of sex. (Sex is off limits) We just call each other friends but obviously it's a little more than that And I know he has other friends that he is close too as well.

Although he has no interest in diapers, he is very open minded and says if I wanna wear diapers when we snuggle that he is ok with That. He wants me to be open about things I want to do even if it's something he isn't into. He says he likes to know how I feel and likes to share an intimate bond.

I'm hoping to get some advice on how to tell him that I'm interested in him maybe trying a caretaker or daddy role with me? I have no clue if he would even consider it or honestly what that would mean. I don't even know what I would tell him that I would want him to do. I do want to wear around him more and I do have a big interest in him trying a caretaker daddy role if he was willing too. He has mentioned me being 100% honest about how I feel and what I might be wanting in the moment even if I know he isn't into it.

So what do I do? How do I explain to him what a caretaker or daddy even is or what I would like him to do? I'm really embarressed about this interest around close friends because I know it's really wierd and probably incredibly disgusting? I mean being open about your love for diapers is hard enough let alone asking someone to be your daddy or caretaker!

[Eir]

Don't push it! Please, this sounds like a good friend. He is okay with you snuggling in diapers. If you like humiliation, I dare you to let a stinky fart come out. Then freeze. When his wheels start turning, you should read if his expression is positive or negative. People will resent you if they begin to feel manipulated.

[padded_husky]

I don't want to minipulate him by any means! =( I've only been padded around him once. I'm still really embarrassed about being padded around him even though he was definitly ok with it the one time. I definitly dont want to ruin anything cause it is a really good relationship and I'm really happy to have the close relationship we have.

I will say I already have passed Gass a few times once by accident while snuggling and I apologized. We both laughed immediately after. Anyways, I don't want to pressure him at all and I don't wan't him to do anything he doesnt. I just like the idea of trying that with him but not sure even what to say if I even say at All. Maybe I should just forget it. =( I just thought who better to ask about this kind of thing but you guys since most of you are experienced mommies, daddies and caretakers and maybe some of you have history in this kind of situation? I mean he is always telling me to never hold back any interests I want to explore with him even if I think he will say no?

[Rani]

If he's invited you to talk about things that interest you then how about starting a conversation that way? If you're worried that your thoughts on him being a caretaker would ruin the relationship you have, tell him. Let him know there's something you'd like to try but you're scared of upsetting him, and reassure him that you really enjoy the time and how you spend it together now. Like you say, the least he can say is "no". If he then does say no, don't take it any further.

Maybe it would be worth wearing your diapers around him a few more times so that you can both gradually get used to it. You need to be comfortable as much as he does.

From what you've said (and bear in mind that's all we have to work with) it sounds like you have a fantastic relationship together and that he wants more too. Be brave, gentle and slow. Just think, he could say yes.

Best wishes to you both xx

[Summertime]

The good part of these forums is the diversity of comments and advice offered, the down side is sifting through those made by armchair agony aunts to decided whether they are made from personal experience or just wishful thinking. You can make all the "pros" and "cons" lists but in the end it comes down to "regrets," can you live with the regret of being positive and taking action or the regrets of being passive and taking no action. Sometimes the regret of "what if" is more difficult to live with than "it was a mistake" or "that worked well." Which ever good luck.

[WakkoWannaBe]

Oh man I'm not a caretaker or a little, and I'm not in a relationship but for some reason I want to comment, ha.

[padded_husky]