Thinking of "coming out" as ABDL to my parents

[shaunk1991]

I know it probably sounds like a completely stupid thing to do and sounds like something you would do for attention but it's something I've been thinking about for quite a while now.

[Nat]

I never understood how keeping it a secret causes distress. It never causes me distress when I did it in private. Diapers I can understand because then it takes the stress off of trying to hide it. I have been caught with my baby things and before the ABness, I was already watching kid shows and still liked Happy Meal toys and I never hid that because it was natural part of me. I also liked coloring too and never hid that. I was always slow in maturity so I played with dolls until I was 15 because I didn't feel like playing with them anymore and I preferred TV and video games or computer. Those were my main interests. Now I have lost interest in TV and don't watch much of it anymore so I wouldn't miss cable one bit if we got rid of it and you can watch shows online now and we have netflix. Do people just become a little all of a sudden when they are older and decide to start watching kid shows again or doing immature things all of a sudden when they had already outgrown it? I wouldn't say I ever came out as ABDL, they found out on their own by catching me with a bottle or pacifier but I never used it around them.

[WakkoWannaBe]

Well, while I wouldn't come out what I probably would do is this:

[DLdapper]

As with everyone who wants to share a personal aspect of their life you have to just think of what this will accomplish for you and how it will affect the future. As for your situation it seems like you really have two different things that you want to explain to your parents. One being a medical issue that seems concerning for both you and your parents, and the other being your desires for ABDL.

[rusty pins]

First, I've seen 18 and 19 year olds post in the forum about wanting to tell their parentrs they wear diapers.

[InD]

Do you want to know that you mother enjoys taking it up the ass?

[Spargano]

Even medical, once you are outside their home is not necessarily their business. My mother and father don't know about my diapers and they don't need to. It's your personal health.

For instance, for me, I am sure my mother would freak out, study up and then pester me with every new cure, new surgery without thinking I know

Spargano

[shaunk1991]

Thank you everyone for your replies. I was going to reply one by one to what has been posted but it seems that everyone has a similar opinion to this.

[pax87]

This never makes sense to me. Not to bash your bravery. In all honesty, coming out to a friend recently has made for an incredible feeling of freedom.

In reality, you aren't going to listen to any word I say. No advice I give you will compel you to sway one way or the other. But I ask you this.... What are you trying to satisfy by being open about this with them?

Let's look at this objectively:

A. You want them to parent you. This is unrealistic. Their job as your parents are to raise you, help you grow up, and get into the world. It's not their job to baby you. The last thing they want to do is see your grown up self acting like a baby.

B. You're just looking to find acceptance and not have to hide who you are. Dude, everyone... Seriously everyone on this whole planet wants acceptance and love. It's human nature. And when you feel like your freak flag is getting crazy, you search for others who can relate. Parents can't relate. And they shouldn't when it comes to kinky stuff, sexual or not, it's kinky!!

So really evaluate WHY you're so compelled to be open before you do anything. How is it benefitting you? What will happen if they take it wrong? Etc, etc, etc.

[rusty pins]

[Bettypooh]

A simple point to consider: What do you expect to gain from telling them? Do you really think that will happen, or might it end upo making things worse instead? Are you willing to risk that loss for a chance at that gain?

[BabyJune]

My opinion only, but unless you have a LEGITIMATE medical problem that requires you to wear diapers, it's never a good idea to share your ABDL tendencies with anyone who doesn't understand the experience for themselves. They'll never understand it or accept it.

[rusty pins]

And to add to what Baby June said, even if you do have a legitimate medical problem that requires you to wear diapers, there is no reason to tell anyone that you are also an adult baby who loves wearing diapers, using pacifiers,

[widdlemikey]

As others have said, 'coming out' is a complicated issue.

[babyleanna75]

Rusty Pins and Baby June took the words out of my mouth. Just tell them you need to wear diapers for medical reasons and leave it at that dont tell them about your ABDL side it will freak them out and cause problems with your relationship with them and you will regret telling them.

[shaunk1991]

Ok.

[Bettypooh]

Sometimes you need help from others. My own memory is awful and getting worse slowly. I carry a small notebook with me and write down the important stuff so that I don't forget it Kind of funny but when you write something down it sticks in your memory better even if you don't go back and read what you wrote You might give that a try and see if it helps. The notes don't have to be complete, just enough so that you know what they mean yourself- nobody else reads them anyway:P Some of my notes would qualify as unknown heiroglyphics but as long as I can read them, that's enough. Give this a try if you think it might help, all I know is that it works for me and many others so it might work for you too!

[rusty pins]

The reason my mum comes to my hospital appointments is because I have short term memory loss and have a lot of difficulty talking to people along with really bad balance problems. There has been a few times when I've seen the doctor alone whilst mum was having a coffee or whatever and as soon as I left the room, I couldn't remember anything that was said. Obviously, when it comes to the more personal side of things everyone is sent out of the room.

[BriGuy]

I come out to those who need to know. My parents are not one of those folks. I don't want them feeling like they messed up raising me. I also believe a little bit of private life is a healthy thing.

Spouses should know, and if friends find out so be it. Parents though... I don't ask about their private life because it's none of my business and visa Versa.

[shaunk1991]

Ok, didn't mean to offend you at all, but in my defence, you had not mentioned the other problems of short term memory loss and difficulty talking to people