jeremy12312

It's a business for them. If they pay more in benefits than they take in with premiums, then they lose money. So they make it as hard to get the revolutionary, new (expensive) treatments as they can. For government-sponsored health plans, Medicaid and Medicare are already the 2nd largest national expense behind defense. I'm entirely for socialized medicine, but a lot of people don't want that kind of tax burden.

My partner accepts that this is an interest, "makes" me wear diapers 24/7 (as in, the occasional toilet usage gets mocked), but that's pretty much it. No changing, no caregiving, no mommying. Compared to some folks, I can't complain. Would I have liked to ended up with someone fully in the scene? Maybe, but who knows what downsides that would have come with. We're 15 years into this and still going strong, so I'm not going to spend any time thinking about what could have been, because that might never have happened, either.

Wouldn’t it just be easier to lie to your wife about what the urologist says, than to lie to a trained professional who isn’t going to believe you anyway? They’ll run a scope up your urethra looking for blockages before suggesting a catheter.

Here’s the mechanism in action, saving me from having ignored the almost overflowing drip dray on my espresso machine. Looks and feels like an inflatable raft in a pool.

Yeah, this is the situation I was trying to talk about pre-surgery, when I was accused of negative nelliness. I wasn’t against the surgery, I was against your cover story that tried to make it sound like a “legitimate” operation, because to a urologist your story doesn’t make a lot of sense. I truly hope this all gets sorted out for you soon. I generally live by a “don’t lie to medical professionals” rule, since if you don’t give them all the pertinent info, their diagnoses and treatments will go down the wrong path. And that might mean you’re getting good tacos in Guadalajara after routine urology appointments at some point in time.

Do it. "Reluctant" partners can take very quiet steps to engage deeper, and (in my experience) can be hurt when you don't play along. Worst case, she tells you she was just joking after you take it to the bar some night.

I don’t think Mexico has anything to do with blood clots, post-surgery. Plenty of people have surgical complications everywhere. Unless eating tortillas makes blood clots worse In fact, the close and rapid personal attention paid by the clinic staff is probably better than at some hospitals in the US.

Yep, they’re great. None of the normal complaints about cloth-backed disposables apply to them. No weeping, no odors, no sagging. They’re great.

I think this particular situation is weighing more than most, because the poster hates wearing diapers sometimes. That is not a person who has accepted the risks and inconveniences inherent with incontinence. They want it for the sole purpose of forcing them to wear diapers even when they don't want to. It's someone who says, "I'm going to hit myself on the head with a rock until I bleed every time I make a mistake at work so that I stop making mistakes at work." Brown Bobby , Ferix, et. al went through the mental health counseling and lived as an incontinent person before taking their measures. This is someone with a lot of money looking for a quick solution that all evidence presented has proven they haven't weighed all the negatives. "TSA will be inconvenient in the future," the board says. The person who sounds like they've never worn diapers to the airport says, "nah, I don't think it will be so bad." People here are sharing their lived experiences with someone who's about to start having them, and this person says, "I don't think that's right" when they've not actually experienced it themselves. I think this is more dangerous than naysayers, this is someone making a decision of great import who only wants to hear "yes men".

By all means go for it. I’m not saying the desire is wrong. But the version of events he plans on telling people regarding how it came about doesn’t make any sense at all.

I’m also not against you having the surgery, not that it matters what an internet stranger thinks about your actions in the first place. But your reasonings to make this seem, to the rest of the world, organic and natural are not as water-tight as you think they are. You are caught up in the desire so much that of course your story makes sense in your head. Humans are funny about being able to justify anything they really want to do, in their own head. But to an outsider who has no vested interest either way, it stinks.

Luckily we’re going to find out which one of us is right soon enough, but also luckily only one of us has to live with the results.

I still have no idea what you plan on telling the Dr during this visit that is going to make any sense to them. Nobody, I mean nobody, on the “legitimate” urology treatment path has surgery as a first line of treatment before a specialist consult. They’re going to look at a calendar and see that this event happened between the time you mentioned a minor concern to your regular doctor and the time you’re seeing them. Radical surgery in the vanilla world is the LAST line of defense, not some casual thing, which obviously is why you have to leave the country in order for it to happen. They’re going to ask about your prior diagnosis and the urologist you saw previously. They are going to know you’re lying about this, because your backstory makes no sense when framed against the traditional treatment path that they have practiced their entire medical career. They’ve literally seen it all before, except you will be the first person, ever, who walked into an initial consult AFTER having radical surgery. So, how are you going to answer their line of questioning when they’re trying to figure out what happened in this novel situation? I honestly think you’ll get a better treatment plan from them if you come clean. This is absolutely a Monkey Paw granting wishes situation. Your whole life, it seems, you’ve wished you were incontinent and through the magic of medical tourism, your wish has been granted. Brace yourself for getting absolutely everything you’ve ever wanted.

Sorry for the derail here, but the thread title reminds me of one of the newspaper headlines in a very old version of SimCity. “Naysayers say “Nay!”

I don't know. Sounds like she was close to going into hospice to wrap it up anyway. My risk acceptance calculus changes dramatically when there's no other options to have a healthy recovery. Spending a few extra months morphined to the gills isn't a pleasant existence, either.