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6 years into this, I'm getting better at building them. Look up the Babica PlayCrib, they start at 1k -- shipping included.

Kinsey, I'm sorry you are getting this here, we should all be more clear on consent. I think your description of when consent is needed(when a person is or may become aroused) is bang on. I like the fact that you advocate for wearing discretely in public, and draw a distinction between that and using strangers for personal gratification. I agree. I think many people in this lifestyle are desperately lonely, and I was-- for decades. After a while, I could see people being tempted to intentionally exposing themselves because they are going crazy from deprivation. After all, wearing a diaper without anybody ever noticing is like a tree falling in the forest: does it even matter? Sure, it feels nice, but how lonely to never talk about it. Our sexual expression needs to be seen, it's part of the creative/expressive part of our brains. That's why it's important to be intimate with others, as hard as that may seem. Some people have given up, thinking "no normal person will want me, and the diaper girls are all taken!" And yet there is this desire to share this intimate part with somebody. I've spent a lot of time on the topic of AB/DL and gender comparison, like, WAY too much time, lol. I eventually understood what I needed too, after fighting for years with this topic. They share qualities (secrecy, judgement, isolation, etc) but they originate from totally different needs. This is impossible to prove, because we are in the land of constructs, rather than concrete facts, but let me share the final place I got to after much discussion: I sometimes get "diapered out," and the ABDL desire wanes. Its not that I stop being ABDL, but I don't feel up to it. When I was younger, I would purge in these negative cycles, but I've learned to accept them, and just put my stuff in the closet. Let me be clear: I have been an ABDL for my whole life, and will always be one, but sometimes I just don't want/need it. A lot of you can relate to these moments, it's a very common experience: "I just can't little out," or "I need to take a break." Those of you with actual kids, like me, know this even more so. When you take your little toddler kids to the park and play on the equipment with them, you don't get a "thrill" out of it (even if you go to the same park after dark to feel little). When you parent, you switch this off. I had an MtF girlfriend for a while, who was also ABDL. She sometimes felt she wanted to take a break from ABDL, but NEVER did she say "I think I am tired of being a woman today." I hope that helps some of you wrestling with this. Read it again if you need to, it's a massive revelation I had one day that liberated my mind. There may be people out there who are truly age-dysphoric, but I think that is very rare, and most of what we talk about here is intermittent sexual expression. I also acknowledge that there are some gender issues here around sexual expression. Men are taught to pursue women, to "be a man" by "getting the girl" like some big Zelda game. Yet society hates men for it. We encourage and reward sexual aggression, but persecute men for engaging in it. We are in general, disgusted by male sexuality. Compare the image of a woman pleasuring herself to a guy "fapping." Disgusting, right? Women are taught to keep sexual desires hidden, and that sexual expression should be subtle. Yet we love it when women express themselves. They are conditioned to be "nice," but really, female aggression is very respected and admired. All these issues tangle together, so don't hang your hat on anything, we are evolving as a species, and there will be some disagreement. I have been with a mommy for 5 years now. There is no end to our love for each other, and as that has developed, my need to be witnessed has disappeared. It's like a healing journey of going back to being a vulnerable little boy and doing this properly. She was totally vanilla, but she loves this, and consents to every single inch of it. I get everything I ever wanted, even the most taboo aspects, and I just need to be honest, respect her, and ask for consent. Asking for consent is the happy, balanced experience of "being a man" I was missing all those years. I know it may be frustrating to hear, but if you are isolated, and going to parks late at night sitting alone and feeling empty on the swings, you need to get back to finding a partner. You can do it! PM me if you feel lonely and like you'll never have a partner, I will help you if I can. Sorry for the long post. Forgive me if I have offended anybody in my ignorance, and feel free to correct me. I seem to have no shortage of ignorance, lol.

That's some cool woodwork

http://www.timescolonist.com/news/local/viu-accused-of-failing-to-deal-with-fetishist-s-infantilism-1.23094374 So I am in family court, with my ex trying everything she could to remove my parenting time and guardianship(we have been in court for years) and suddenly she drops the ABDL bomb by showing the judge the above article while I was on the witness stand. She said that this was infantilism, and "he has the same thing, your honour." She framed everything I do as a "boundary issue," and described it as a mental disorder. Luckily for me, the judge was not appreciative, and said "I don't think this is relevant, because it's another person, and I don't think he can speak to his behaviour." I still don't know how the trial will turn out, my ex made it all about safety, consent, alleged mental illness, etc. She said I like to defecate on the children's clothes, and then masturbate on them afterward. Just to be clear, that is NOT what I do, I'm just a typical ABDL who likes diapers. We are waiting for the ruling. If you are the person in this story, please be aware that your behaviour affects other people in ways you may not have thought of. The rest of you, be careful with who you share this with. Bring it up right away with a new date, don't find yourself in that horrible place where your wife says "you can do whatever you want out of my sight, but I don't want anything to do with it." Those kinds of people will hurt you over and over, they just don't get it, and I doubt they ever will. Wish me luck, the ruling comes out in a month or so.

Wow, I don't know what to think. The fact that he had pictures of children actually being abused by adults is telling. I don't totally buy the "I just clicked on the wrong link" defense here... Like 41 times? And you didn't delete them? I was bothered by the fact that they said the baby diapers would not fit him... They are likely stuffers, like many of us use. From what I see here, most ABDLs look at baby pics to model the look, or behaviour. ABDLs are VERY picky about getting the diaper to fit just right (like people who want two tapes instead of 4, to give that "baby diaper" look). I have to admit, I am fascinated with my butt when I'm padded, always looking in the mirror to see how babyish it looks. I would imagine most lonely ABDLs look at babies with a wisp of envy and longing. As a parent of two kids, however, I think I might want to punch somebody who was eyeing up my child to see how their diaper fits. I don't care if it's sexual or not, my kids are NOT part of your thing! That's just my protective parent side showing. I just wish we could make space for people(especially men) to feel nurtured once in a while. Part of me hates this guy for making us look bad, for being careless and unconcerned for the kids he is watching. Another part of me thinks he is a sick person, and part of me just wants to give him a hug and tell him he is not a monster.

Yes, the doors are on the ends. The mattress is on the floor, but would normally sit a little bit higher. The bed is independent of the frame around it, so you could raise your bed if you wanted less bar length. If I stand in the crib as it is, the bars are at my chest. It feels very babyish and safe to have the bars this high for me. The doors have been installed on the ends with this particular crib, but they can also be placed on the side, as you see in the pic I've added. It's a modular kit, meant for stealth and flexibility.

Adult Sized, no really!

Yes, I agree, just don't worry about it. I'm not a fan of "15 questions to determine whether or not you are a sociopath" kinds of sites...I am even less impressed with "15 ways to know whether your partner/friend etc is a sociopath." Everybody's got an opinion. I choose to not sweat it. Interesting link, but I have a feeling the author is in conflict with themself. If diapers get in the way, it happens differently for every person, and what counts as "isolation" is different for each person. Just enjoy life, it's fun!

Ok, this one is simple. I shave all the things, and I am a hairy guy. Something most shaving companies won't tell you: you can use conditioner! Yeah, like that bottled stuff you already have in your shower. I lather my whole body up every second morning. Wait 2 mins for the hair to soften, then I use the "up down" stroke (with the razor, ok??). When you pull up, it shaves, push down, and it clears the stubble from the blades. Once you have the skills, everything below your nose comes of in about 5-7 minutes. I epilate my arms, because I don't want any stubble there. Ingrown hairs are a problem when you start, but after consistent shaving, they go away. Exfoliating helps. Don't sit on the fence: if you don't like your hair, get rid of it!

Here's an abdl life hack for you, especially if you have to use cheap diapers like Depends: Diaper tapes need a landing zone... A flat, smooth area with thickish plastic to cling to. Good diapers like bambinos have them, and refastening is no problem. But Depends suck... They always pop off after a while. When they do, they steal some adhesive and are not refastening. So I make my own landing zone with packing tape. Try it.. put a few strips of tape across the front of your depends, then put the tape on your new landing zone. Now undo it, and redo it, and undo and redo it again... It sticks like crazy. I love this trick, and now I can get by with cheap diapers when I need to.

Acceptance is best, because this will not change for me. I am comforted by it, it is slightly spiritual and satisfying, and it has given me confidence to express myself. I struggled until I was 40 with trying to manage vanilla relationships, or dabbling in kink communities. I eventually just said "this is me, and there's not a DAMN thing wrong with it. I started to tell people I dated (vanilla or kinky)in the first few dates, and it was matter of fact:. I told the woman I am currently with that I may NEVER be able to give her what she needs sexually. I am ABDL, and that's it-- it defines my sexuality, my modality in the world, and is tied to my ways of coping in this world. Instead of running like hell from a relationship that sounded very one-sided, she said "I'd be willing to try that." What started that night was one of the most beautiful ABDL relationships I have ever heard of or seen. We went to the depths of this, and my loving partner found that the more she babied me, the more satisfied she felt. We are BOTH extremely turned on when I get babyish. I would tell you some of the incredible experiences I have had with her, but this would start to look like porn, lol. Suffice it to say, there is NOTHING she will not do... And she really likes to gently but firmly control me. We are both in paradise, and have been for almost 5 years. I feel like we need to do sexuality workshops, we are having the best time of our lives. I'm not going to take that on, because it's too much work, lol, but please PM me if you want help navigating any relationship with this. There is more than hope for us, we can have experiences that are beyond our wild dreams. So don't settle. And think twice before you say "I have to give and take in relationships." Babies just take, with honesty and an intense connection to their caregivers, and when ABDLs allow themselves to be selfish in this way, the caregiver is also in bliss. If your partner is not feeling wonderful when you baby out with them, you are not quite there yet. That's just my opinion, and I know other people may see this differently. Anyway take care

I think it was a fair portrayal. I realized something however, when I followed the MTV thread about it (follow up story). One of the participants says they might have kids one day, but they will keep this lifestyle secret.

Oh, I see.

https://www.google.ca/amp/www.pinknews.co.uk/2016/04/07/when-do-children-develop-their-gender-identity-how-kids-are-more-fluid-than-you-think/amp/

I think we are just chatty and none of us like to miss a chance to put our two cents in.